It has been a while since I have been on this board.  There is a support group for both Lap Band and RNY patients If you are in the Des Moines area....here is the link...  http://www.obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/showeventinfo.php?E vent_ID=1207318251

Awww...well thanks so much Jane!  I am honored that I was able to provide some positive light on this kind of situation.  Good luck with your husband & please let me know if you ever want to chat: I'm here!  ;~)  Take care

Tonya

Hey Lisa...okay so I kinda went through what you are going through.  At first when I finally decided to get the whole process started so I could get the surgery, the first person I told was my mama who is very supportive of me (thankfully).  That is because she, herself, has struggled with weight issues all her life, so she knows my pain.  I told my dad next, who was not as supportive at first, but once I educated him he's definitely come around.  I know that not everyone who chooses to tell whomever they wish, will end up having as good as reaction as I did.  At first I wasnt going to tell co-workers, but I decided to change my mind because for me personally I am very excited about this and wanted to share it with people. 

 In all honestly, I know people are going to have their speculations regardless of what they know or do not know and people are going to have their opinions no matter what, thats just the way life is.  I guess I'm kinda rambling here *lol* BUT my point is this: the choice is totally yours.  Its your mind and body that will be going through this and yours alone.  Its a very private matter for you and no matter what you choose to do-remember that for once in your life, its okay to be all about YOU....you are doing this for the opportunity to have a BETTER life, a HEALTHIER life and there is nothing wrong with that, no matter how you go about it!  Its your life and yours only...of course the support of those you care about would be nice and welcoming but just remember that if you dont get that, ITS OKAY...if you are strong enough to even consider this surgery..you are strong enough to make it thru anything that comes along with it!  Take care and I hope I was some help!  *hugs*

Tonya