Mothers AARRGH!

Spent the weekend with my mother, which is tramatic in itself, but try to do the daughterly thing at least every 6 months. Haven't been there since Christmas. This is the mother, who when I was in high school and weighed 162, told me I was fat. I believe that is what sent me on the way to yoyo dieting for the next 40 years. Anyway, I now weigh between 152-156. She said I was too thin! I just wanted to throw up my hands in disgust. My son also said I'm too thin. But I'm NOT! I am only 5'5" but have broad shoulders and hips. My ideal wt is 138. I'll be happy at 142 (well, maybe). Mothers sure can be toxic. Of course, I probably have 6-8 pounds of hanging skin. My mom said I should just exercise. She really has no clue. This from someone who is 5'1" and weighs about 110 and has never had a wt problem. I'm just glad that I don't have to visit for a while now. I do miss seeing my son tho. But this is his busy time (landscaper).

Morning Lyn I hear you loud & clear! Dad thinks I've lost enough & my yo-yo has been 171-174 lately. Stress I wasn't eating so gained 5 lbs last week! Hanging skin is unreal! Think the arms bother me as well as the legs more so than the tummy. Let's put it this way no more shorts or short sleeve tops for this ole woman! I've heard from several you better not lose any more weight you'll be to thin! Still need to get to 150 for Dr's ideal weight. Lately I'm beginning to wonder if that will ever happen. People who haven't had a weight problem tend to judge us more harshly I think. They see the fat melt away & maybe this scares them. I haven't figured it out yet. Have a nice holiday Hugs Carolyn

My grandma was the same way! She'd make me clean my plate, then tell me to run around the house ten times! She used to make fat jokes at my expense, and now she's asking me if I'm getting enough to eat. I'm 5'8", and I weighed 267 at the time of surgery. Now I'm close to 200. My ideal weight is around 170, because I have a large frame. The ironic thing is, she is the one with a big rear end now, because she's in a nursing home, and can't exercise much anymore. I was tempted to say something about it to her, but I kept my mouth shut. -Shelley