Is anyone else???????????

Morning everyone...i know alot of us deal with depression before surgery and still do...does it get any easier the longer we are out...I wander sometimes if since i had complications i buried alot of my emotions down so far that they are just now coming out. I know alot has happen in my family this year. today i woke up crying. and i am still crying and not sure why. before you all ask yes i have appt tomorrow morning for therapy. I have days i wander why i put myself threw this surgery and i do have days where i do regret having this surgery. i know i am healthier now more then before. Don't get me wrong i am so glad i had the surgery but i do have bad days.. The longer i am out the happier i am i had this surgery. But i can honestly say until about may or june i wasnt that happy i had it done. I do know alot had to do with all the major complications i had is why i regretted it. Maybe i am just having a bad day today i am not sure. I know i have alot of issues that i need to deal with and i am not helping myself or my kids if i dont get some out side help. i feel or had been made to feel asking for help and getting therapy means i am weak. i know it isnt but when you are brought up that it is kinda hard not to think that way.....well i need to go pick the apt. up....lynda

Lynda: It does not mean you're weak or a bad person, because you're getting some help from a therapist. Depression is a physical problem as well as an emotional one. if you were diabetic, you would treat it, this should be no different. It is nothing to be ashamed of. I have been treated off on on my whole adult life for depression. There are some very good drugs on the market that help tremendously. Many of us who are/were morbidly obese suffer from depression, and anxiety. That's how some of us got where we were, we turned to food for emotional support, and to mask our feelings. Never let anyone make you feel bad because you need help dealing with your depression. I have been very lucky and had a problem free recovery from my RNY. It is a major lifestyle change, and there is a period of mourning, because we have to give up eating as we're used to. We have to turn to other means for comfort. I can't say that I've ever regretted having my surgery, but then if I had some of the major complications some of you had, I'm sure I would have had those feelings too. Please continue to get therapy, and if they prescribe an antidepressant, be sure you get it and take it as directed. You deserve to be happy, and your kids deserve a mother that is able to give them what they need. You will feel so much better about everything, when you can get all those chemicals in your brain at the right levels, which is what causes depression, levels get out of whack!! Hang in there, deprssion is very treatable!! Best of luck, DeeAnn PS I'm currently on anti depressants, and was preop too. It has made a tremendous difference in my recovery!

Deeann, thank you for your support. what scares me is i was on medications for 5 yrs for depression and they had me severely over medicated. I was taking close to 15 to 20 pills a day and they kept uping my meds. but i never went to therapy with out being on meds. so maybe this time it will be different. Another thing i am having problems with is that i have no insurance anymore so if they were to put me on meds again i couldnt get them. I know being depress doesnt mean i am weak. i remind myself that daily. but going up my parents lead me to believe it was. Even the older i got they kept it in my head that it was a sign of weakness. My mom suffers from it now and she tells me she is sorry for making believe it was a sign of weakness cuz she says it isnt it is something you have no control of. I am 38 and been suffering since i was 10 she is now just telling me it is ok. That is one thing i need to work on also. One thing i tell people that are looking into this surgery it isnt just a stomach surgery it is a mental surgery. i thought i was prepared for it. we have to change the way we think and how we react to things. instead of eating i surf the net. we change one addiction to another addiction. right now i am trying not to spend as much on the net. so i decided as long as my kids are home in the house i wont be on the net much. esp from 630 to 930 pm i am going to focus on spending time with my kids. tonite we are going to go for a family wallk no matter if it is raining out......thanks for the support......lynda

Lynda: Check with your county health dept. and maybe DHS. There are programs that might pay for your meds, since you're without health insurance. I know of a program called Rural Outreach that helps people without insurance get medical care, meds ect. I don't know if it's state ran or what. Check with you therapist when you go , some places can give you sample drugs, at no cost. Your therapist may know who to contact for help also. You are right, there's more to this surgery, than just the physical aspect. I do sometimes miss certain foods,and eating like I used to, but I like the way I look and feel now, and so feel I made the right choice, but there is definitely alot of "head" stuff to this surgery. Good luck, and check into getting help covering meds! It sounds like you were overmedicated!! Most antidepressants that I'm aware of are, taken in a single dose, 1 tablet, pill, capsule, depending on strength. Good luck, and hang in there, we're all here for you!! DeeAnn

I too have dealt with depression for a long time. I was doing really well for awhile after surgery and was allowed to D/C my meds.....it only took a couple months to realize I still needed them....actually I knew right away i would probably still need them but I tryed hard not to!!! It truly is a chemical imbalance and no matter how bad we don't want to be on meds, sometimes it is the only choice! I do not go to a therapist, but I should.....I just see a pysch doc for pills! I am not a cryer when depressed I turn more mean and reclusive.....people or things **** me off and I lock myself in my room for days........we all have different ways to deal!!! Just no we are here when you need to vent.....You have been through a lot with the complications, not having a job or insurance, dealing with your ex, But you are doing pretty darn good!!! Take Care and vent anytime you need to!!! Jesi

Lynda GF...((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) I think the majority of us go through this! When dealing with certain things we always had the food to hide behind and now we don't...and that makes it harder to deal with! Let alone dealing with the changes our bodies are making, it too is and can be very overwhelming!!! I too was brought up with my mom telling me to get over it!!! Eventually I do get over it, but this still doesn't mean that I shouldn't get help for it! You have been through alot this last yr. and have come out fighting and strong.....BE PROUD OF YOURSELF!!!! Just know that we are here for ya, Janet S