72 inches gone forever!

I found an old piece of paper that had my measurements from October 2002. I had my surgery in July of 2002. I re-measured my arms, wrists, neck, chest, waist, hips, calves and ankles and I have lost a total of 72 inches! That and about 180 pounds. WOW! I also had plastic surgery so that plays a big part in it... I would do this whole journey again if given the chance, what a remarkable adventure! Anyway, I haven't posted in forever and wanted to say hi to everyone, I am working full time now and my hubby and I are getting back together. I have a question for those of you who are now post op and lost quite a bit- do you feel that your weight loss has affected your relationship with your spouse? Hubby and I had a lot of problems but I think my change in attitude was a major one. I am not as willing to just sit around and let life pass me by, I am going to stand up for myself more and I think that was a major thing. Also with my mom beig sick and passing away, it definitely affected my life. Anyway, have a great day!! Julie

My opinion only!!! I think the surgery and new found sense of self will make strong healthy marriages stronger and the ones that aren't strong and healthy will have the problems. I love my husband and he loves me, we have a very strong and healthy marriage.....we fight and argue but nothing out of the norm.......I could never imagine this experience hurting our relationship, if anything it has brought us closer by a lot! I have lost 130lbs in 10 months......my energy and spirit are back.....my attitude has stayed the same. My husband loves my returned energy and spirit....we are doing things we have never done together as a couple (not sexual..lol) We have been married almost 7 years and I have always been heavy, I never felt like I settled or was letting life pass me by....but now we are enjoying life so much more together and as a family! Congrats on your weightloss and success.......72 inches is amazing, unfortunately I never took my measurements Oh well.....I know my surgeon did, I might bug them for em! Sorry to hear about your mom too! Well I think I have rambled on long enough~Take Care and have a great day Jesi

Hey Julie, Girl, what an amazing journey! I remember meeting you pre-op at a Trinity support meeting. Whoa the changes you have been through... I am thrilled about you and Damion, last night you guys seemed sooo happy... dealing with the kiddos, and watching football. I got such a strong sense of love (but I wonder about the wedgies? LOL ) Your friendship means so much to me and I am thankful the surgery brought us in to each other's lives. Don't have any hubby advice... just wanted to say WELCOME BACK TO THE BOARD! Paula

I agree with Jesi. I've seen a couple of marriages fall apart after surgery and weight loss. It took awhile for my husband getting used to me being able to do things for myself again. I think he was afraid I wouldn't need him any more! Nothing could be further from the truth. This past August we have been married for 34 years, and I think our relationship is stronger now for all the things we've been through together. Congrats on the amazing loss! Can't wait till Thursday to see if my TT has been approved. Jeri H.

Way to go What an amazing feeling this should be to you! Can't answer on the hubby part, we've been separated for 3 years now! Think I have a healthier attitude though, loss of 65 lbs now, 6 months next week. Feel better about the "new" me & much happier. Sorry about your mom you are right it does affect your life. Carolyn

Congratulations, Julie. Let's see, 72 inches - that would be 6 feet of person that you lost. Wow! I heard the same thing that Jesi did that if you had a good marriage before, this will help to make it stronger. Whereas, if you had a rocky marriage, this may break you. Good luck in your relationship and congrats! God bless, Andrea