I'm out of here!

This post makes me kinda sad I think the Iowa boards have a lot to offer EVERYONE!! It is true the weekends are slow.....I skim through everything quickly and if I dont have good advice or something I don't always post.....I am busy, three little ones 5 and under, and a hubby and dog.....I am sorry how you feel, but we are a great bunch of folks! I don't think it is clicky or anything like that.....there are some of us that are friends because we have met or go to support group meetings together, but we don't exclude anyone......I offer support to anyone and everyone who needs it.....You are free to email me anytime! My surgeon also says no asprin for life.....But I am glad to hear you didn't have blood clots and that they are taking precautions.....blood clots were my worst fear with the surgery.....I am having another surgery this thursday, so I am worried about them again!!! My surgeon and hospital never has had a support group, U of I.......so I get a lot of help from this board, I also try and get to the Davenport support group! I too hate that counter thingy that shows how many people read a post....it does kinda make you feel bad when you see how many people have read your post but haven't responded.....we have all had that happen to us!!! Take Care and I hope you stick around...... Jesi

I guess I'm guilty of reading and not posting, but like someone else said, I didn't really have anything else to add. I try to keep up with the board but life has been crazy and I've had very little computer time lately. I'm sorry you feel that you haven't received any support from this board. I've seen your posts and read them, responded to some and have seen that others have also responded. And I'm sorry some of you feel the board is a clique. I know that some of you know each other pretty well and actually see each other. Just because I don't have that tie to anyone doesn't make it a clique. And as others have said, the weekend is usually pretty slow on this board. Carol, I'm sorry your feelings have been hurt. I don't think anyone intentionally would do that. Sometimes it's hard to put in an email the real meaning of it. Things are taken out of context because you don't have the verbal cues that we all use to determine what a person actually means. It's happened to all of us. We type something and mean it one way but it comes out the opposite. I hope you reconsider and stay on the board. Lyn

Hiya Carol....First off I would like to say that Iam glad that things are going good for you now, and am sorry to hear that you had complications! Also Iam very sorry you feel this way, I for one of many have been extremely busy, and yes am guilty for reading post and not responding all of the time, I will work on that! As for the support group in IG, well all I can say is that everyone is veryyyyyyyyyyyyyy busy...I know with having 4 kids that are very active in school, and my job, and with hubbys farming and all I just couldn't commit to putting things together for support group! I know it was discussed with Dr. S about his staff putting together a support group and heading it, but I haven't heard of any of the details, gonna try and talk to him about this and see what they have come up with! I think the Iowa board is very supportive, and as far as it being clicky, I guess I don't understand where that is coming from??? I hope you change your mind and continue to post here! Janet Schmidt

Just me again! I had to come back and post again, I have to tell you Carol that I took your post very personnally!!! With the support group in IG...I don't know why Iam being made to feel guilty about this, but I do! I have been dealing with some issues myself, but am slowly working through everything! I know I haven't been very supportive lately with anyone, just haven't wanted to burden anyone with my problems! And like I said above, time has really been an issue with me, just doesn't seem like there is enough time in a day to get everything done...and family is no. one priority!!! Feel free to get things going with the support group in IG, in order to get support sometimes you have to give it! Janet

ok it is me again...i just read some of the post under this. as for the iowa board not being supportive to everyone. i think the iowa board is very supportive. we try to help people no matter what. funny thing i have realize is for us that have had surgery we are busier now then before and we want to do more things with ourselves. but one thing i do think is that if you ask any one of us we will be there for you when ever you need it. and if you are not happy about something then change it or offer to help out with it. maybe you could say hey i think this month we talk about things to cook everyone bring a recipe. or find someone that has had the surgery and have that person talk about their surgery and how they feel..one thing i have found out this surgery isnt just on our stomach it is very mental. i maybe wrong but the mental part is a very big thing for us and how we deal with things. we all have alot of issues to deal with and sometimes we just come and read to see what is going on and we dont want people to know how down we are. but one thing i have been trying to focus on is i might be having a bad day but you know what there is someone else is having a worse day then me.....i did talk to janet and told her that i would help her out with the support group meetings and some topics and i would be willing to come to ida grove and do some to help out you guys just let me know.......lynda

Hi Carol, First of all congrats on your weight loss, but I want to know is this.... Where is this anger coming from?! This is the best support message board around! Now if you were on the Main Board I could see it, flaming really goes on there. I went back & read your post & the replies & don't think you were being flamed at all. I don't take it personally when I see that there are 70 looking at my post & only a few reply. Sometimes there just isn't anything to say! As far as your support group goes, you could try Cherokee if you aren't satisfied with IG. Read my profile about the one I was going to. the support group there reminds me of the Main Board. At one time I ran a Support Group for parents that had lost babies & I know personally you can't please everyone so you do the best you can. It is a job that is thankless let me tell you. I also have to take asprin daily due to my heart attack. BUT I had to cut the Celebrex so deal with the fibro pain daily as the asprin doesn't cut it. Also, I don't think there is a secret password or anything like that on here, I feel this is a greater support, people here are compassionate & more than willing to help. I would like to think you were having an off day when you read the replies, there was nothing negative that I could see. I don't always post but read instead. Instead of flaming the IG support group try to get more involved & get things rolling yourself if you aren't satisfied. It's a thankless high burn out job. Enough said. Carolyn

Oh Carol, please don't feel that way. I'm sick with a terrible sinus infection and was not on the computer but a little bit on Friday night. (I think it was Friday, anyway, my weekend was a blur.) I'm so sorry that you feel you did not get support. You know that I am always here for you, as others are, too. The weekends do tend to be a little slow on here, usually. Don't give up on us yet, please. I'll read your other post and reply now. Hang in there, hon and remember, I CARE!! God bless, Andrea

I just think someone is looking for attention and "feel sorry for poor me no one answered my post"...Stop with all the blah blah blah !!! Your the one that will miss out ...Sorry if I pissed anyone off but thats the way I feel. Stacy

You're the type of person that should be eliminated from this site! You are a very unsupportive - ungrateful woman. Your type would make one diffenately want to leave this site!

I read your profile and am new to this site. I am hoping to have this surgery done next year. I have my 1st appointment in January as I have to change insurance plans I am on at work because the doctor I have selected is not on the plan I currently carry. I am interested in your progress as I am almost the size you were before surgery. My BMI is 64 and it is scary the idea of this surgery but I am excited too. I can't always respond because I can only read this on my lunch time at work and being new I am basically reading this to see what others have been through and to see what I have to look forward to. It is good to see you have logged on though. Good Luck