How do you handle negative comments?

Hi, I've decided to have the RNY surgery and now am in the process of all the steps to get there. I've got 4 really close friends and have told 3 of them so far. Two of them were terrifically supportive, but the third when I was telling her tonight about the surgery, etc. just got really quiet and was kind of negative about the whole thing. How do you handle that? Now I'm almost afraid to tell my other friend. My sister and brother in law are really supportive, my family is very small and I know my aunt will be too. I just don't want to get bogged down with any negative thoughts. Ideas? Thanks! Judy

They are negative because they are not informed. When people do not know much about this surgery except for the negativity they hear on the news it makes it hard. Educate your friends and family. I went through this and I found that when they were educated they were more supportive. Encourage them to go to this sight and read from actual people who have had this done. Educate them on how your medical problems what ever they may be will hopefully disappear and you are adding years to your life. This is not an easy solution it takes a lot of work and everyone seems to think it is an easy way to lose weight. I am almost 3 months post op and believe me it is not an easy solution. Explain to them that you still have to exercise and you have to watch what you eat etc. It makes me mad when I hear people say well if I gain some more weight I can have wls and lose it the easy way. I wish I could've taken it off with out my dr help and without this surgery. I think that before you come right out and tell everyone else maybe get some information and have it lying around and maybe drop hints like about people in the news etc on how their lives are so much better and healthier since wls and then maybe ease into it and say I am considering wls and I need you to be here for me and I have done alot of research and it is not going to be an easy journey but this is the path that I have chosen. Hopefully everyone will be supportive. I know I heard everything from its all in your head and what have you to lose weight. I wish you well!

could this friend br scared for you? i had that happen too. i just said i was doing this for myself. and nothing was going to stop me. i wanted my life back and i had tried everything else. let her say her thoughts, she needs to get them out too. be gentle, but firm. good luck in your journey! dont forget to get before pictures for a brag book. mj