Bummed

Hi eveyone. I'm so sorry to come here and vent, but I need to so bad. I seen my "new" surgeon for the 1st time today. (Had to switch because my job's insurance does not cover my original surgeon). He's a wonderfully nice guy. But my news was not good. 1st, he told me I was on the LOW side of the losing scale. I have only lost 84 lbs in 6 months (anniversary yesturday). Ok, to me, I felt that was good because I have NEVER lost that in 6 months before. Add that to my loss before surgery and it equals 110 lbs. Ok, so that is slow I guess. Then he made me realize all of the things I'm doing wrong. He recommends 3 meals a day NO SNACKS............. My old surgeon recommended 6 meals per day. Well, now I'm switching. Maybe it will help my weight loss. Then he reminided me my "honeymoon period" was officially over. Well, that made me sad too because I have been on a plateau again. Then....... I have a big hernia. Nothing he wants to work on just "yet". Ok and FINALLY~ Since beginning work, I have been exhausted and haven't walked........... MY FAULT I KNOW! So, I have royally screwed myself. I MUST get back to basics and start fre**** is going to be much harder now then it was 6 months ago, but I HAVE to do it. My old surgeon wanted me to weigh 125 lbs, well my new surgeon said he wants me to be LESS then that. I don't think I'll ever even see 125, littleone less......... Ok, Well, that was my whiney post and I'm so sorry. I MUST re-learn how to be~AGAIN!!!!!!! God Give me STRENGTH! ((((HUGS)))) Tammy

First of all big hugs Tammy. Hmmm....you know yourself everyone is different & we don't all lose the same. My gosh girl 84 lbs! That's great! DON'T let this guy get you down. I think the most important thing to do is what is right for you & what has been working for you. Hey we didn't gain this weight overnight & we aren't going to suddenly shrink down to our "ideal" weights overnight. would be great though wouldn't it? Hon, quit beating yourself up RIGHT NOW!!!! You've had a lot going on lately. Think the best thing you can do right now is get back on track as much as you can. Can just imagine how tired out you are. I'm probably making no sense whatsoever... I'm good at that! You are doing great & looking great, keep up the good work. You go girl!!!! (((((Hugs)))) Carolyn

FIRST of all... I am 10 months out and I've lost 107 lbs... and when i was at 6 months i was EXACTLY where you are... do not lose hope. Some of us lose slower than others! It sucks...BIGTIME...but it's the truth! I am diabetic and they say that has alot to do with the slower loss. ALSO, the less weight you have to lose, or the less lbs. you started out at the slower you lose. If you weighed 500 lbs.. you are going to lose ALOT faster than the person who weighed in at 260. I started at 304. The last 8 weeks i have been on a HUGE plateau that bounced me from 202 to 206... i thought I'd NEVER see under 200... but here I am ... 199 lbs last night and 197 this morning! whoOHOO! It happens... just have faith and try to follow the rules. I am DEFINATELY no angle. I have a few carbs..but i always go right back to the good things and follow as closely as I can to the rules as much as i can. I have 3 meals a day...i do eat snacks. I am big on sugar free candy and i have the occasional sunflower seeds and nuts. I just make sure i am getting in my water.. and enough protein and TRY to keep the snacking at a minimum of 3 per day. One in the morning, about 10am. One about 3 in the afternoon and another one at bedtime. All sugar free.. all low or no carbs...ok..almost all hehe...it's ok to mess up .. just remember, we can't mess up as BIG as we did before.. and just go right back to the rules. YOU CAN DO IT! The only thing i would definately do is increase your exercise. I have done that and it helped to get me off of my plateau..or at least i think it was that that helped. I am just walking about 1-2 miles 3 times a week. Sometimes in the woods where it is hilly and a little harder. Keep the faith girl.. you will do it and just remember.. even if you dont lose another lb..which you will...but if youdont... you LOST 84 LBS FOREVER!!!! That is nothing to sneeze at! Be proud of what you can do...what you have done.. and who you are. ~~Dawn Phillips

Oh, honey, sorry that you had a hard time with the new surgeon. My dietician recommends only 3 meals a day and no snacks, but the psychologist (also working with the center that I went through, along with the dietician) said that was unrealistic. Try snacking on s/f popsicles. They help to ease the evening cravings, in my case. You are doing awesome, dear and like everyone has already said, be proud of what you have done! You are not a failure, no matter what anyone says. Repeat after me "I am not a failure. I am not a failure. I AM not a failure. I AM NOT a failure. I AM NOT A FAILURE!!!!!! Keep up the good work, I know that you will do fine. God bless, Andrea

My surgeon also is very strict and only wants the three meals a day....NO SNACKS.....it seems kinda rough but it gets easier with some practice and willpower.....Believe me I am not one for willpower but I have been working on it and I am doing pretty good.....If you need a snack....have the sugar free popsicle like Andrea reccomends or some sunflower seeds....They look like they have high fat content but it isn't the bad fat and you really don't eat that many.....For my bad days I rely on them....they take a long time to eat when I do it one at a time and it keeps my hands and head busy which is a major thing!!!! Best of luck....And remember there is no magic number.....You are doing great and getting healthy and that is all that matters....Take Care and get some rest.....sounds like you are busy and need a relaxing weekend! Jesi

Tammy, Can I ask who your new surgeon is? Mine also says 3 meals & no snacking. But then at the last support group meeting we were told to snack on nuts & seeds. Go figure! Dixie

Hi Tammy! I'm glad that my e-mail helped and that you are feeling better! If there is ever anything I can do or help with, just let me know...it's nice to know someone with the same surgeon now! Sherry Open RNY 02/04/04 (Proximal-75 cm) 294.5/237.5/150 -57#