sorta discouraged

hey all... I have lost 68 pounds and am very happy about that. But how do you shake the feeling that you will never reach goal and that you are still that fat person you started out as? I still have about 60 pounds to go, and have been at a standstill for a week, and am starting to get worried that this is all I am gonna lose. When I hear compliments from someone, I just can't seem to take them and enjoy them, I thank the person, yet in my mind I have a little voice saying.. all that weight loss, and still look like a blimp... UGH!

Rane, A lot of people say that the head does not keep up with the changes of the body. Often, those changes need some therapy to help your mind catch up. I think that I am down about 80 pounds but still feel the same as you do. I know that I am going to need some help with that. Sooooooooooooooooo.......... I am seeing a therapist next week to first get some ideas on how to keep control of food choices all of the time (especially during PMS) and eventually how to help my mind change the image of myself. Hang in there - I think that you are perfectly normal and doing a wonderful job! God bless, Andrea

Thanks for the encouragement Andrea. The past few days have been disasters and I find myself wanting to eat all the time. Not bad things, but eat none the less. And I have become a slave to the scale. I know from many previous weigh****cher days that weighing all the time is not a good thing to do, but I want so badly to be normal again, and just want these pounds to go away. We will be going to Florida soon with my step daughter from sweden, and I was hoping to be a decent weight and feel good enough about myself to enjoy the water while down there. But like I said, even though I have lost quite a bit, I am still fat. Patience has never been one of my virtues!!

I'm not on the losing side yet, but I understand what you are saying. Every time I have lost weight, I still see a fat person. My body may be different but my brain is the same. I think it was Andrea that said she is going to a therapist to help with this. I congratulate her on realizing and accepting that she needs help to change this way of thinking. I hope I am strong enough to do the same. I don't think I'll go back to the psycho psychologist tho! Sixty-eight pounds is GREAT! I'm already thinking about how fast I can get rid of it, but the logical side of me realizes that I didn't put it on overnight (altho it seems like it) and it isn't healthy to come off too quickly. I hope in a year I will be at goal. I also see myself with the scale obsession. I may have to hide it. My goal is 20 pounds the first month and then average 10 a month after that. I hope that's realistic. I'm sure the surgeon will tell me when I see him next week. Gotta go dry my hair before it dries itself. If it does that, it and I won't be able to go thru the door together! Very curly and frizzy. Yuk! Everyone have a great weekend!

Have you taken pictures of yourself through out this journey? I always compare the "before" to the new improved me. You are doing great- pledge to stay off the scale- once every 2 weeks, or maybe even once a month. Concentrate on how you feel, and get out there and LIVE! That's the whole purpose of this surgery- to LIVE! I know it's hard to get stuck- I've just come off of a 6 week stand still. It got better when I finally said, you know, if I never lose another pound, it was all still worth it. I can move better, breathe better, and I may never be a beauty queen, but I look better than before! Of course, that's when the pounds started down again! The brain is a strange and mysterious organ! And by the way, I think you look marvelous! Jeri H.

Hiya...My name is Janet Schmidt and Iam addicted to my scale...whewwwwwwww!!! LOL With that said I know exactly what you are going through, I have lost 64lbs and still feel very fat and frustrated, and I too do not take compliments well! And I must say that there are days I feel like this is all Iam gonna lose.... That is why I keep coming back to these boards...for the support and encouragement, thank goodness we have this! I think you are doing wonderful!!! Hang in there and know that you are not alone and that we are all here for you! Happy Easter, Janet Schmidt