Darlene Harris-Midwest City, OK

Hi All! I have been reading but not posting much lately. I have been beating myself up for eating the wrong things and not pushing to exercise as much as I CAN (still do some, just not as much as I should) As you can imagine, my weight loss has stalled. The last couple of days I have been reading the main messsage board for updates on Darlene Harris from Oklahoma. I have been following her profile and journey for over a year now. One of those inspirational people to me. Well, this morning, she passed away. Here's the link to her profile. http://www.obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/profile.phtml?N=H1006160562 I grew up in a family where if anyone saw you cry, you were laughed at, teased, etc. (NOT looking for sympathy here) but as I sit here typing this, I am in tears. I just re-read her profile and am truly humbled. So today, with a heavy heart and a mind that is spinning, I am renewing my determination to get healthy. I didn't go this whole insurance, surgery, and journey ordeal for nothing. I also feel like we all have another angel to help us. Sorry for the long, depressing post, just needed to tell people that would understand and hold me accountable. Besides myself that is. I have to be true to myself above all. Thanks for reading and letting me get this off my chest. (((HUGS))) Elizabeth

Elizabeth- Stop beating yourself up! We all have "weaknesses" or we would not be here! This a change that takes time. If it was easy to do, it wouldn't have any value. Everyone is entitled to a little back sliding once in a while. Plateau's are our bodie's way of taking a deep breath for what is coming next- usually a major weight loss. And it always seems to happen when you are the most depressed! Give it a few days, relax and take a little time just for you. The weight will start to come off again, you will not have cravings for foods that are not on the approved list, the sun will shine again. You are a great inspiration to all of us! XXXOOO Jeri H.

Elizabeth, DO NOT APOLOGIZE FOR USING OUR SHOULDERS!!! (There, did you hear me yell at you?) Elizabeth, you have lifted so many of us up so often, it's time for us to do the same. I am sorry that you have lost someone that was such an inspiration to you. It's okay to cry. That's what you need to do, even if you weren't raised to. About not posting lately and being held accountable, well, when you're not here, we can't help. I'm glad that you're here now, Elizabeth! You can do this. You can eat healthier and take control and exercise. What supports do you have at home? Are you going to a support group? Those are things that you know you need to do for yourself. You've been through a lot, my dear. Yesterday is gone. Don't beat yourself up. Start new today. It sounds like you have recommitted yourself to doing what you know you need to do. Keep up the work and always know that we are here for you, Elizabeth!!! May God bless you with strength for the journey, Andrea

Elizabeth...Hang in there, you can do it girl!!! Just know that we are all here for support whenever you need us OK! Today is a very hard day for us all with losing another member! My heart goes out to her family!!! You have been a inspiration to me....I love your posts on here, your advice means A LOT to me!!! Take care of you, Janet Schmidt

Just wanted to say Thank You to all the replied. I know you all are here, I guess I just needed time to work thru it in my head. Still working on it, but getting better. Thank you, (((HUGS))) Elizabeth

Elizabeth, She was one of the first profiles I ever read before I had my surgery. I was truly amazed by her. I have so often looked to find any info on her again on the main message board and have checked her profile from time to time. I to am just crushed to find that she has passed away. I was so hoping for a good outcome for her. I just can't believe it. It is funny how sometimes something that you have no real connection to can affect you so much and I can't explain why this does but it does. Thanks for posting this I have thought of her so much and haven't seen any info lately. Ann