Sort of bummed.....

Yesterday my daughter who cooks where a lady who had WLS works told me that she is eating like normal again meaning that she ate a cinnamon roll one day and they had pizza bread for lunch that day and also a danish another day all this last week. This bothered me because she is about a year post op and still has weight to lose. She also was the starting person for our support group where I live. Most of all it scared me that I will not be able to maintain my loss and change my eating habits because I know how hard that is. Of course this also gave my daughter more reason to question if I should have this surgery because she thinks I'll lose and then gain again. I know the surgery is only a tool to be used to lose the weight while we change our eating patterns but I wi**** was easier LOL LOL LOL >...Ann

Ann, I, too am concerned. That is one reason why I continue to research distal vs. proximal. My understanding of the rny procedure was that it in and of itself was malabsorptive. But my surgeon said that the short-limbed, proximal, rny is not really that mal-absorptive because there is so little of the intestine bypassed - 100 cm. He kept saying that I could "out-eat" this surgery. Why in the world would I want to do a major surgery just to ruin it???!!! However, I am very concerned. I know that we have to change our behaviors and that will enable us to be successful. However, I want NO chance of gaining any weight back once I take it off. In my understanding, my surgeon does the proximal because of the greater risks with nutrient deficiencies with the distal. But, I am going to talk to him about bypassing more than 100 cm. Maybe he will! I have also heard that down the line, dumping episodes may subside. My cousin that had the surgery done about 3 years and 200 lbs ago can eat whatever she wants. She attributes the success to following the plan exactly as instructed from the beginning. Now, if she wants to have a little bite of chocolate, (not the whole bag :

Ann, First off remember that the lady is not you. Those temptations will always be out there regardless whether you have surgery or not. Prior to surgery I ate becuase I enjoyed it, it made me feel good. Post op now, food doesn't have as much pleasure for me. I eat because I have to. The success of the surgery depends like you said on you changing old habits. In the 2 days before surgery I downed an entire bag of Cheetos (my favorite) When I was able to post-op I bought a little can to try them. Funny thing is I had to throw them away becuase they became stale. They didn't taste good anymore and didn't hold any appeal for me. I think the hardest part was convincing myself I could do this. I was scared I would fail again, and yet I was also scared about how my my life owuld change if I did lose the weight. I can tell you I am happy I had the surgery. My health is much better off now. Hang in there. Janine