Well I have six days to g...

Well I have six days to go and I'm not yet anxious. I hope that's a good thing. I am so ready to begin a new chapter in my life. My best friend Diane and her husband offered to go with me for my surgery. I was so grateful that they would be there for support but over the last 3 weeks my friend has been very cool to me any time I mention my surgery or any details about what I've read and what I've been doing to get ready for my big day. It became so uncomfortable for me that I kindly told her that another friend of mine was going to come to town the night before surgery and that she would take me the next morning. Diane seemed very relieved. Today she mentioned that she and her husband had made plans weeks ago to spend this weekend and the day of my surgery out of town with their friends. Now I know why she was acting the way she was. The bariatric educator told us in our inital meeting that some friends and family members may treat us differently and now I know what she meant. My surgeon even mentioned this to me in my first consult. Have any of you experienced this?

Patti Jo, I have ten days and I am not nervous yet either. I just wanna get this show on the road! I haven't had that response yet, but my bf seems to have put up a thin wall between us. He has had a lot of tragedy in his life and I think if he doesn't think about the bad things that can happen, that none of them will happen. He has been very huggy and kissy (can't think of a better way to put it! LOL) I have family that is coming in for my surgery date that I don't have a lot of contact with otherwise. Kinda makes me feel like vultures circling. I am not gonna go through all this crap just to have problems now. My Mom is a nervous wreck, but hasn't said anything to me. My sister told me about it this last weekend. Mom was a RN for over 40 years. (old school) and knows enough about complications to scare herself. anyway, my advice to you about your friend Diane, seems to me like most people fall into 2 catagories, those that are jealous and /or looking to have self-gain, or those that bend over backwards to support you. In bad times, you find out who your real friends are. As my 92 yo Grandma says, ya have to pick your friends wisely cause you are STUCK with your relatives! OK, OK I guess my Darvocet is working good tonight since I am rambling and hopefully making some sense. I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and when we both get home and are recovering, we will have to compare notes.. lol Elizabeth

My surgery date is Oct. 6th and I'm not really nervous yet either. Of course, that is the first thing my friends want to know "Are you nervous?" I just tell them, that the excitement of it all is more overwhelming than nerves. I have experienced the jealousy part with my best friend already. I think she feels very threatened about me having surgery. She's always been the dominate one in the friendship and I stand on the sidelines, but I think she's afraid that maybe other will pay more attention to me as time goes on. My mom will be the only one going with me on surgery day but I can't expect others to take off work that day. But, I know I have lots of other support for me when I get home from coworkers and family.

Congrats on the upcoming date!! It takes so long to get here that you are sometimes beyond being nervous, you just want to get on with it. I guess I had a healthy case of being nervous and just reviewed my literature of how the process will happen etc., and followed the pre-op instructions to the tee and they still had to give me two enamas before surgery!!!! My mother was very worried about the whole deal but also realized that my struggle has been a long one. What I did for my primary support person was to give her a list of numbers to be called after the surgery was over to let family know the outcome and to releive their worry. It worked out great!! Follow your doctors instructions and you'll do great!!! Yes, my doctor did explain to me that the people around my change a little, but I guess I can't control that and I don't worry because my true friends and family have been there for me and are very supportive and I can't worry about the others. Good Luck, paula