Silly Question !!

"This might sound like a silly question" Does anyone else (pre-op) think about RNY and everything that goes along with it from the doctor appt to the day you reach your goal weight.....For some reason thats all I think about 24/7 ever sence I have gotten refered to my Surgeon. Has anyone else been like this or am I just going CRAZY.........XOXO Stacy

If you are crazy, then so am I. Wait! That isn't saying much!! LOL I think about surgery 24/7 . I even dream about it! I realized I am not a patient person and I always thought I was. I am at the stage where I am waiting for my second consult with surgeon on Aug. 19th. I just try to keep busy and spend a lot of time on this website learning. Hope that helps to know you are not alone. Elizabeth P.S. The only silly question is "Why didn't you ask?"

24/7 is right!! I even find myself trying to think of a way to work it in to just about every conversation I have with anyone - I just hate it when I do that - but I feel like I'm going to explode sometimes. The waiting is such a killer!! Hang in there - we'll make it!! Kathy

Hi Stacy- Of course you are engrossed with all those thoughts! This is not just a case of "having surgery", we are in essence electively choosing to kill an "old friend", our fat lifestyle! I am not that worried about the actual surgery, even tho I know it is risky and serious. I recognize how out of control my eating is now and can VERBALIZE what kind of a dramatic change I am making, but the reality of all it entails really scares me. I am deliberately killing my "best friend", FOOD; my security blanket, my excuse for not getting on with life, for not getting involved more with people, for not advancing in my career, you name it; its been a convenient excuse. I will be making major changes in what I eat, how much I eat, how much I exercise, how I emotionally deal with the previously mentioned things, how it may affect my relationship with my husband, learning to see an attractive person in the mirror instead of the fat person I have always been... My husband and I have even talked about the need to change the focus of our socializing from eating out to physical activities. Fortunately(for me) he has a weight problem too and is just as committed to changing his lifestyle at the same time which should help as we support each other. Stacy- I would be worried about you if all this DIDN'T conjure up some anxiety!! We just need to stick together and pull ourselves through this- knowing we are not alone! So heads up as we walk into our new lives- we have grown too comfortable and secure where we are... its time to put our nose to the grindstone and get to work!!! Nothing good ever comes easy!!! XOXO Michelle

Hi all, I agree with all of you. My second consult is 8/14 and I'm so excited I can hardly stand myself. I think about this entire process all the time. I have had a previous open abdominal surgery so this surgery will also be open. I'm not the least bit scared. My only concern is my pets and my shorterm disability. I'v made it this far and I know I will get through it. Have any of you or are any of you having surgery at IA Meth. in Des Moines? I have just discovered this new State site and think its a great idea. I would enjoy hearing from anyone. Here's wishing you all wonderful thoughts and dreams. Patti