So scared

I am getting more and more scared as the days go on. Here I am just 15 days away from being on the other side and I am wondering if I am doing the right thing. On one hand I know that in order to be here to see my child and future grandchildren grow up I have to do this. On the other hand I wonder if I have tried hard enough to lose the weight myself. One of the women from my town just had this surgery a couple of weeks ago. She had some major complications and the doc had to open her back up to remove 1 and a half quarts of fluid from her abdominal cavity. This is the same doc as I am using. I asked his nurse today about his success rate and I was told the same as before, well diff numbers....25 surgeries and only the 1 had complications. Does this mean that I am apt to be the 2nd complication? I know bad things happen in 3's. I am so scared. Someone slap me and make me realize that I am doing something good for myself. Amy~~~08-05-03

Amy I'm so sorry you are going through this. If you are not sure about Dr. Sunberg then it is not to late to see another doctor. Go see some one who has done more surgeries. He has done 25 surgeries and one complication, but what about the other kind of surgeries he has done. And if I'm not mistaken He had one complication when I went to his siminar. So does this make two? I guess unless you can feel confident abpot your doctor you will always worry. I'll be in Ia Falls on Thursday if you want to meet and talk. All my thoughts ***DeAnne

AmyLynn, slap, slap, and slap hard, you know it's the right thing to do, how many diets do you have to continue to do before you realize this. You know youv'e tried them all I'm sure and got nowhere time and time again. You will feel and look fabulous and you know that to right? It is only natural to get nervous, damn you wouldn't be human if you weren't. The Dr. thing, most definently go to another if your not comfortable with him. I think going into this type of surgery with that type of fear about your Doc sure can't be good. You need to believe in his ability and trust him totally. I think you will be just fine, nah, I know you'll be fine, just pre- surgery jitters. I'd slap ya then hug ya if I could, so give yourself a big lecture about the being the right choice and then give yourself a big ole' bear hug and pretent it's from me ok. Your gunna look fab girl.

Amy, Its you Angel flying in to save you.... You have been through alot and I am here to tell you that everything will be okay. No matter what you decide we are all here for you. i think this is just the jitters and I believe in fate. We can't control everything but we can can trust God I don't know how religous you are but I know praying has always helped me. Trust in yourself and if you truely are not sure about this don't do it... Nobody will fault you... We are all here for you.... Your Angel... Lisa Jordan

Hi Amy, I sure can relate to your feelings. I am five days away from surgery and I am nervous too. I am wondering if this is the right thing too. So far, I am moving forward as planned. I know my diet history and I know this is probably the only answer for me , but I still wonder if I am making the right choice. I worry about complications too, just like everyone does, I'm sure. I would just say that if you are not comfortable with your doctor or his track record, I would not rule out changing doctors. I know that could delay things for you, and I am sure you don't want that, but ... this is a major surgery. I wish you the very best and you will make the right decision. Gloria

You'll be fine! I was a nervous wreck up till they put me under! I had surgery in Grinnell on July 11, and am thinking about returning to work sometime next week. I had a lot of fluid, too. However, it was mostly down low, and came out as a very scary fountain while I was in the shower, 2 day post op. Scared the nurses half to death, but luckily the surgeon was doing rounds at the time, and said let in flow- it was bloody colored, but not alot of blood- mostly fluid. It didn't hurt- was just a big surprize!

Amy, GOOD LUCK TOMORROW> we all love ya here, and I will be here when you get back, actually I will call your cell tomorrow night, to make sure everything is all good. Take care of yourself, know that this is the right decision. Judi