HEARTBROKEN!!!

Morning all, Well, I finished my pre-op interview yesterday and next tuesday I'll be a looser!! MY prob is hubby is getting angryer and angryer the closer it gets, he pretty much let the cat out the bag last night, basically stating he has dealt with my whinning for 12 years about my weight and now I want him to be supportive of me getting skinny so I can leave, WHAT??????? We have been through this again and again, He isn't even going to go the hospital with me, wants no part of this, He knows how much this means to me, yet he wont be supportive, He is supposed to be my best friend, what is happing? why does he want me to stay fat?? This is just ripping my insides up, and I cant fix it!!

I am so sorry to hear this! My husband was VERY supportive, but now that the weight is off, he gets so suspicious. I love him and would never EVER do anything to hurt him or our marriage. They say that the divorce rate is higher in couples where one of them has weight loss surgery, I guess it takes a lot to overcome such huge changes in a spouse. My first instinct is to be angry that your hubby would think that you couldn't leave now, just because you are overweight. Is your husband overweight? Are you "leaving" him by losing the weight that he will still have? Hopefully you can talk to him and he can be there for you, I would have my husband talk to him for you if that would do any good. I know that I healed much faster with the support that I got, and if he isn't there for you now, are you going to want him there for you later? He can not help you through the bad, what is going to happen during the good? I hope he comes to his senses and is there for you physically and emotionally. Take care hon {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} ~Julie

Hey Christina, In a way I know how you feel. My husband is like that in alot of ways. But when it comes to this subject he supports me. On the other issues I tell myself that it is his loss. As for your husband I would say he is missing out on a wonderful experiance with you and to wake up!! If he dosen't think highly of him self he is projecting his short comings on to you. I know you didn't ask for my opinion but I have a way of giving it freely. You and your husband will be in my prayers *****DeAnne