The Daily Question- One thing that scares me about WLS is... (post your answer here)

We can take turns posting questions, but hopefully all will answer them. We can also offer advice too, if needed. Or maybe just some comfort and {{{hugs}}}.

The fear of not waking up after surgery. I was petrified that I would be leaving my husband and children alone in this world. But I DID wake up, and had no problems with my procedure. I think there comes a time when we have to put our lives in the hands of God, your surgeon, whatever higher being you believe in, and let go to the fear. I am very glad that I did, and I can honestly say that I would do it again tomorrow, knowing what I do now. ~Julie

You all have nothing to be afraid of, I promise you!! Everything happens for a reason, i am sitting here two years out, and still making it!! love amber

1. I worry that I will be that unlucky .5%(or whatever the stat is) for whom the surgery is not successful. Or that I will lose about 40#(the most I have ever lost on my own) and don't lose any more. I DON'T fear surgery since I have had several other operations and surgical procedures done so if anyone has any surgery fears please let me know and I will try to put your mind at ease. I hear so many people fear they will die in surgery. I actually coded twice during one of my surgeries and although it has caused me to be more cautious, I just put my self in my surgeon's hands since they are trained to deal with about anything! I was more in awe of their their ability after that than scared for myself! If you have any doubts about your surgeon, then you should be looking for someone else to do it! 2. I worry that my relationship with my husband will change. We have a good relationship now and have talked about that possibility. I guess we are more apprehensive about how my personality might change as I become more self-confident and how we will deal with that. I anticipate becoming more outgoing and assertive. (He groans!!!!) We are big eating buddies and both suffer from poor self esteem. Any ideas on how to get through that gracefully? (I like this format Julie! Good idea!!) Michelle

I am afraid of failure. I failed once with my Vertical Banded Gastroplasty. I worried my friends, family, and cost us alot of money for nothing. I am sooo deathly afraid that I will fail again. Maybe that will be my strong point..maybe i can turn that fear into determination to make this time work. I read the success that Julie Dalton and others have had and it just makes me cry with pride for them and all their hard work.. i just hope to god that i can do this too!