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Hi all,  I finally, after 3 years, have my surgery date- 4-29.  My husband is behind me 100%, but I have yet to tell my parents or siblings any of this.  Mainly, because I feel they will try to talk me out of it, or make jokes at my expense .  They have not had the lifelong issues I have had and would not understand.  My husband feels as though I do need to tell them, I just am too chicken to do this!  Anyone else deal with something similar? Thanks, Lisa

Hey Lisa...okay so I kinda went through what you are going through.  At first when I finally decided to get the whole process started so I could get the surgery, the first person I told was my mama who is very supportive of me (thankfully).  That is because she, herself, has struggled with weight issues all her life, so she knows my pain.  I told my dad next, who was not as supportive at first, but once I educated him he's definitely come around.  I know that not everyone who chooses to tell whomever they wish, will end up having as good as reaction as I did.  At first I wasnt going to tell co-workers, but I decided to change my mind because for me personally I am very excited about this and wanted to share it with people. 

 In all honestly, I know people are going to have their speculations regardless of what they know or do not know and people are going to have their opinions no matter what, thats just the way life is.  I guess I'm kinda rambling here *lol* BUT my point is this: the choice is totally yours.  Its your mind and body that will be going through this and yours alone.  Its a very private matter for you and no matter what you choose to do-remember that for once in your life, its okay to be all about YOU....you are doing this for the opportunity to have a BETTER life, a HEALTHIER life and there is nothing wrong with that, no matter how you go about it!  Its your life and yours only...of course the support of those you care about would be nice and welcoming but just remember that if you dont get that, ITS OKAY...if you are strong enough to even consider this surgery..you are strong enough to make it thru anything that comes along with it!  Take care and I hope I was some help!  *hugs*

 

 

Tonya

Tonya - I just wanted to let you know that you provided inspiration to more than just Lisa with your comments.  I am struggling to have my husband accept my decision and the positive comments from you about doing something for ourselves was just what I needed as well.  Thank you, thank you!       Jane

Awww...well thanks so much Jane!  I am honored that I was able to provide some positive light on this kind of situation.  Good luck with your husband & please let me know if you ever want to chat: I'm here!  ;~)  Take care

 

 

 

Tonya