Death in Family has me turning back to food

Last Wednesday, we lost our son-in-law to a senseless death. He left behind 3 small children and a wife. I have seen it tear apart my daughter and grandchildren. I feel so helpless that I am finding comfort...again with food. I know this is wrong but, can't seem to help myself. Does anyone have any suggestions to help me?

I'm so sorry about your loss. I am one who drugs myself with food to help cover and deal with my pain. I think the fact that you know you are doing this is the first step. Coming on here and asking for help is good and talking to people who care about you will help too. I don't know what else to say, but I'm sure there will be many more replies with support and help for you. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Just take one day at a time and don't beat yourself up too much when you slip.

Deb, please accept my sympathy on the death of your loved one. I will add your family to my prayers. I, too, tend to use food to help me cope with life. I have found being aware that I do this has helped me stop myself. Some other suggestions: drink some water, crystal light, etc.; exercise (even a couple of minutes might help distract you); keep busy (which I am sure is not hard right now, unfortunately); take some deep breaths and regroup. Again, I wish I had a magic wand that could make it all better for you and your family. Take care, Jill

First, Deb, Let me express my heartfelt sympathy. I am so sorry for you & your daughter & her family. A similar thing happened to me last summer. My sister got very sick & we didn't know from one day to the next if she'd be with us. I'd work during the week & spend my weekends in Iowa City at her bedside & sitting in the ICU waiting room. As soon as I'd leave her room I'd head for food. That seemed to be the only way to fill the empty aching spot in my belly. I'd cry all the way home stuffing my face. As a consequence, I gained 20 lbs. My sister survived, although quite fragile, but I really blew it. I knew what I was doing, as you do, but it didn't matter. My only concern was for her & her family and I was so worried & scared, I turned to the only comfort I had left. Please, don't allow this to happen to you. I am now struggling to lose that 20 lbs & having a devil of a time with it. Try to find something else to comfort you. Again, I am so very sorry, Dixie

I don't have any advice for you Deb. But I do want to say how deeply sorry I am for your loss. This is a very difficult time for your family, so please be kind to yourself. jean

Hello Deb you and your family are in my prayers so sorry for your lost