Bad experience

Had a really bad experience.

I went to a ob/gyn specialist and the doctor told me that I would need to lower my weight. I told him that I was considering bariatric surgery. He then proceeds to degrade and humiliate me...

1. He told me women like me are in denial about weight
2. He said that we think we eat like a bird when in actuality we eat more than the 3 average people.
3. He asked if I ever seen the looks I may get from others at the table when I sit down with my big portions.
4. He said that women like me aren't serious about losing weight otherwise obesity wouldn't exist.

WHAT AN @$$HOLE! I was almost in tears... I have never met this man before.

I told him, I keep it real. I don't sugar coat what I put in my mouth. I know I don't like to excercise. I told him he has no idea what it is to suffer from obesity as it is a disease. I am not in denial... I wear conservative clothes. I'm not an overweight girl who wears hoochie clothes and let's it all hang out...

He just smirked and winked his eye... He knew he got to me. I left.

I came home and told my husband... He was furious. He was going to call the Doctor himself. I told my husband not to go there...

It's been bothering me ever since.... I can't function because my mind eventually trails to this scene. I just pray that this memory will be forgotten and that I can forgive.

For now, all I can do is hug my husband because I can feel nothing but love when he holds me... Can't wait for bariatric surgery...

(((Ko****) I am so sorry and appalled you had to be in the presence of such a horrible person. Unprofessional, unethical, and totally clueless about obesity, not to mention cold, harsh, and rude! Just because he is a doctor does not give him the right to talk to you or anyone that way!

There are a lot of ob/gny specialists out there. You certainly don't need him in your life!

Let it roll off you like water off a duck's back, girl. You're so much better than that so don't let the arse get in your head. Just consider him ignorant and move on. Find consolation in knowing that it will come back at him someday.

Hug that wonderful hubby and know how lucky you are. You are a beautiful person inside and out and you always will be. No one can take that away from you. Know you are loved. ((hugs))

He is not worth it. Never go back to him again. What a donkey!!!

Awwwww man!!! People are so insensitive sometimes, I swear. Shake it off girl. Shake it off!

I have an uncle that lives in Waipahu tell me a few years ago, "Michelle you so pretty but how come you been come so fat"??? I tried shaking those words of my uncles off for so many years and it really did hurt cause he's a relative. He just came to Kauai last month to paint grandma's house and I couldn't wait to see him. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh..........you should have seen his jaws drop. I even sent him back to Oahu with my big girl before picture and after picture.

You are on your way to a healthier you. Be sure to visit that doc about 6 months after WLS surgery and see what the A-Hole has to say then....................

(((((((hugs to you)))))))

aloha,

michelle

Koko,, sorry to hear that u are goin thru this...change doctors and report that jerk! my ob/gyn is sooo supportive and i love her...you should be able to talk to ur ob/gym about anything.  Nahea is right, What a donkey!  But i say what a donkeys ass!!

I know what you mean.  I took my son for his 1 year check up.  I wasn't sure if the doc was doing my son's or my physical.  He was asking me if diabetes, high blood pressure run in my family.  I said yeah, but luckily I don't have diabetes for an overweight person .

He started asking me about my family eating.  Mind you my son is not off the chart for his weight only his height.  He said that I have to be careful what I feed my kids.   I'm looking at him...are you diagnosing me or my son? 

And that was not the first time....I took my two boys for their football physical.  Physician asked to put my son in this obesity program for kids.  I told them straight "NO"!  He ask me why...I said "if my kids just stay home and do nothing I would consider the program, but they are active year round"  And they are not even close to being obese....mind you we have Polynesian bone.

I had so many stories with physicians because of my weight, and yes I did cry tell my hubby.  And my hubby wanted to talk to them, but told him...I don't want to waste our energy.  Its not worth it.  Yes, sometimes that will always stick with you, but in reality they are really "NOBODY" to me.  They can kiss my BIG BROWN A$$!    I have nothing but LOVE  BABY!!!

Mahalo ladies!!!

Awwwww.... I feel so much love from this Hawaii board! You all have made my day, honestly!

The encouragement here just lifts my spirits!

We will all stand together.  "IMUA"

What a jackass!!!

I can totally relate to dr.'s being insensitive. I got told pre- op that I should just go to weigh****chers and get a personal trainer to lose the weight, and that I was being impulsive for wanting wls. THen I got told post-op by my dr. that the statistics were against me for losing the weight and keeping it off because of my history of depression!! Dont these people freakin think before they open their mouth!!

I could have dwelled on their words etc but it made me angry and I thought to myself I am going to prove them wrong. Our pasts do not have to be our future.Do not let this man's negative words get to you!! Your new life will begin before you know it!