Divorce papers served?

Hey everyone, I'm sorry if I haven't replied to any of you lately, it's just that I have been in a deep depression since friday morning when I was unexpectly served with divorce papers. I am totally lost. I feel like a complete failure,and so stupid. I actually was under the impression that my marriage had been going incredibly good lately, and the whole time it was ending. So what do I do now? I love him so much, but if this is what he wants what can I do? Part of me wonders if the surgery is to blame, I know that sounds crazy though. I feel so alone. Both my parents are deceased, and I only have a handful of friends and most of them don't even know what is going on yet. I hate to burden other people with my problems, I know everyone has their own, but my heart is completely broken. The only thing that gets me through each day has been or son Lukas. I just concentrate on making him happy and keeping my crying to a minimum so he doesn't have to worry about what is wrong with mommy. Any advice out there? Can I get some love from my friends on here? Thanks for listening. Rachel

Rachel, I am so sorry to hear this bit of news. I know that it can be totally devastating. When a friend of mine was going through her divorce (she had two very young sons), told me that she would cry in the shower. That way the shower noise would drown out any noise that she might be making while crying. Please remember that we are your friends also, and want to be there for you, even if all we do is listen. Take care and may God continue to bless you!! Norma

Here's some ((Hugs)) from a friend online. I feel for you going through this. Kia

Rachel I am so sorry to hear about this sad time in your life! Please know your a beauitful girl and you will be fine! FOCUS on yourself and your little one! Look at it this way it is his TOTAL LOSS! He will miss out on life with you. There are others who will love you for who you are! Please take time for yourself! If you want to chat email me! Carolmac [email protected] You will be in my prayers.........You will be okay it is hard as heck!!!

I only know of one way to try to lessen the pain you must be feeling... Try and focus on all, and I mean ALL positive things you can possibly wrap your mind around... A door has closed, but a brand new exciting door may have opened for you... concentrate on that and not on the one that closed.... look ahead! Your son... You are drop-dead gorgeous, are obviously intelligent, and have your whole life ahead of you. Go get it! There's always a reason these things happen.... and all you can really do now is to look at all the positive things it could mean... *sigh* .... gotta roll with the blow as best ya can sweetie... time will make the pain go away... it always does

I wish I knew what to say. I love you and I'm here for you. If you need ANYTHING call me! (((((((((much much love))))))))))))) Dee Dee

We all love you Rachel! I hope everything gets better soon! Love, Lorie

Rachel, I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. Divorces are always hard, especially with kids involved. But I'm sure things will get better one way or another as time goes on and you are able go on with your life and maybe it will be new opportunity for you. I'm a strong believer that things happen for a reason. Wishing you lots of strength , wisdom, and luck. Big hugs, Rita.

Rachel, I'm so sorry you are going through this. I went through it too and it was not easy, but turned out to be a very positive thing. Focus on your son and daughters and, of course, yourself. Things will be okay. I do understand what you mean about the surgery possibly being to blame. I've had several friends that had the surgery... and several of them have divorced pretty soon afterward. I don't think the surgery itself was to blame in their case, but perhaps the weightloss gave them the courage and motivation to do things they might not have done in the past. In the case of my friends, some were positive things... some were not. Just be true to yourself and know this is not the end of the world. I'm local to you, by the way, so if you ever want to call and chat or maybe go somewhere for a cup of coffee, email me. I'd love to. Big hugs!!! Jerri

Oh sweetie - I'm so sorry to hear about this. You are such a sweet woman and can't imagine anyone not wanting to spend the rest of their live with you. I know that there may be no comfort right now, but know that everything does happen for a reason and the steps of a righteous woman, such as yourself is ORDERED by the Lord. Nothing happens by chance. Don't blame the surgery...he would have done whatever he wanted to do regardless of if you had the surgery or not. At least now you are healthier and more able to fight through this battle without the various problems associated with obesity. Now more than ever your health is important because your kids need you alive and healthy. Try to uplift yourself. Try to keep a positive attitude. Please let me know if there is anything I can do. Vanessa