So, my life sucks.
Girl .....I am soo Sorry you are Down !!! Well i think the gall blader will only be a pein for like a week or two if i remember from my mother and it is out pacient surgery so .......
I am sorry to hear about the friends ...but the same thing happened too me ...one of my closest freinds before the surgery stoped talking to me once i had the surgery and then when we talked about it in a way and iw as like lets make a effort to see each other she told me i was not worth re investing in !!! nice huh !!! so it is ok everyone comes into your life for a reason !! if they are a true freind they will be back and will you except them and if not you just have to look at the good they caused in your life ...it is hard to do and yes you feel used in a way but ya know that sometimes is how it is when your a nice person .....But if you ever need to talk call me ...And here i had been wanting to call you and i never did ..see i must have felt something was going on ......
Love ya !!!
Laura 
Girl.. I feel ya. If I lived up there around ya I'd totally hang out with ya.
I recently had to cut off an old life friend because I got tired of her anticts. She was totally self centered... she would talk down about me infront of others so that she could make herself feel better.. she was a big big girl like me. Although I could talk down about her and say all the bad things about her I never did. Any time I needed help with anything or were talking about anything she would change to topic to her. Not to mention she was totally screwed up in the head and has no real grasp on reality and the real world... and she has some anger management issues x.x
So yeah I totally understand.... sometimes you gotta just realise you deserve more than what you have. That you are a better person than that.
Just forget them.. move on... it's hard. It took me along time to cut my ties with my friend.. I mean I would still talk to her.. if I saw her. But... I don't have as much use for her as I used to.
It sucks not having anyone to go to and talk to.. but hopefully you will find someone =)
Much love for ya girl
I'll chime in and guess that maybe you and your friends used to talk about things exactly the way they are talking now, except that you are hearing it differently... I know that with me things that never annoyed me can annoy me because *I* changed, not my friends. I know guys can get away with telling our friends "Hey, would you shut up for awhile" or "I don't want to hear your BS right now, I have my own problems".... I don't think the women do that!
.... and as to men looking, well, I wont even attempt to speak for "men" because there are certainly some out there that deserve the definition "shallow" but there are others that would look at you and not think a single thought about weight or skin or anything like that... I looked at your picture and thought "wow... she is SO pretty!"
With all the changes you are going through it is totally understandable that your outlook on things will change... so maybe it's possible you are viewing your friends actions differently because of the new place you now find yourself.
Your are drop-dead gorgeous, you have made a choice to have surgery and improve your life, and you have a great husband and apparently lots of friends... even though they annoy you right now... plus all these wonderful people here to support you... sounds like you're doing pretty good eh?
Your cup should look half full to you, not half empty 
Well...I guess Im different.
I dont have friends. I found it's the best way for the most part.
I mean I have my husband and this guy I met on the net..and have talked to for 5 yrs..I call him my second dad. He is 58.
And finally me and my mom have a pretty good relationship which we never had until the last year or so.
You sound like you get along with women way better than I do.
I have found out people never live up to what I think they should. They never treat me the way I treat them and when you really need them most of the time they run off. I think most of the time we just need someone to listen and show they care..not really go out of their way to get..or do..or buy things. Just to listen.
You Should be able to talk about anything to your husband..even girl talk. *S*
You have changed so much. Maybe it is time to make some changes including your friends.
Jamie
I'm new here, and just reading whats going on with everyone---my surgery isn't until may 23, but what you're feeling isnt' just because of WLS. Its just reality sometimes. Be thankful that your hubby WANTS to talk to you....some of us aren't that lucky sometimes....dont know which SUCKS most. Have you thought about going to therapy to get some of the feelings out? I was totally against it--thought it meant I was loopy or something--but after going, I realized that just having someone to listen without always trying to "FIX" me...helped....someone who understood my side of each story, patted me on the back when I stood up for myself, and someone who LISTENED intently to everything I said, no matter how screwed up it was. If you ever want to talk, look up my profile and all my contact information is there, you can call me anytime. I love to talk on the phone and I'm not far away. I'm in Carrollton, now, but my home before i married was Fayetteville. Hope to hear from you soon. ~~Lisa
Kay, I had my surgery in March 2005 , and I'm depressed , too. I feel fat again . I know it's a head thing , but I have not lost any since Nov. and I want to loose 25 more pounds. I understand the friend thing too. One of my friends ( we've been friends since second grade !! 50 years !!!) was always skinny , well now she's not skinny and I've lost this weight and I never hear from her , It kinda hurts my feels , but I try not to think about it much. You're at least YOUNG and that's a great thing, so cheer up and let's all be there for each other. I know everybody on this board feels close to you because we've been on this weight loss journey with you. Judy
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