Someone please tell me this is worth it

I am so dismayed. Depressed and sick of myself. I cant loose the weight to have surgery and I am so angry at myself. I got all ready to go to the Y to swim and I am cramping bad from my period. I swear I just need a friend, somone anyone to tell me that I can do this..please Donna

Donna, You CAN do this if you want to! I really hope that everything comes together for you so that you can have your surgery! Hugs, Tonya

Donna, All you have to do is read the powerful stories on this board, and look at the before and afters....That is a testimony of the worthiness of this operation. Beleive in yourself and tell yourself you are worth this and more! Denise

hi, you can do this. ok. l'm just getting started l go meet with the dr. for the first time on the 29 of this mouth.so just wont to say that you can do it. good luck. sarah

Donna, you need a friend, and this is the place to find them! We ALLLL know where you are coming from. What can we do do help? What is giving you the most difficulty? -Tami

Donna, I am SO there with you! Have you tried drinking protein drinks and eating little food now before surgery? I have been doing this trying to get back to my consult weight by the 29th. I have about 6lbs left to go and today I am anxious again. All those crazy thoughts of "what if I don't make it" are going through my head and they need to stop. I feel like if I can get "approved" for surgery at my preop on the 29th I can do anything! One hurdle at a time. The protein drinks have helped me loose weight fast... now I feel like it's stalling somewhat. Hang in there... don't give up! I read your profile and you want to do this for yourself and no one else. You CAN do it!

Gaining control of your brain that has had years of telling you that you are a failure, that you don't deserve to lose weight, be happy, etc. is one of the hardest parts of this surgery. It helps to start by looking at yourself as you would look at someone else... as though you were a friend of yourself. This might sound strange, or maybe not clear, but you have to encourage yourself as you would a friend who is going through this. Tell yourself that yes, it IS hard, but this is the beginning of the rest of your life as a healthy person. Tell yourself that every long journey begins with one step. You can take one step, can't you? Of course you can! And then, you take another step. Even if you just went to the Y - cramps and all - and just walked in the door, went to the cardio room, walked to the other areas, picked up the workout schedules and class schedules, I bet you $100 you would have stayed and done something - even if it was just 5 minutes on the treadmill. That's the power of taking the baby steps. It was so hard for me to drag my humungous arse out of bed in the mornings to go exercise, I would argue with myself for 20 minutes. But, I'd say to myself, like a friend would, "Just get dressed and drive down there and park in the parking lot for 5 minutes." Well, I'd do that, and of course, I couldn't just sit in the parking lot after I'd already gotten there! So in I'd go and I'd begin my workout. It's easier now, but not a LOT easier, I still have to coax myself along. YOU CAN DO IT!!! FORGET THAT OLD DONNA THAT WORKED AGAINST YOU! YOU ARE THE NEW DONNA - THE COURAGEOUS DONNA - THE DONNA WHO IS TAKING CHARGE OF HER LIFE AND MAKING IT BETTER!!! YAY DONNA!!! DONNA IS AWESOME AND SHE CAN DO ANYTHING! WOW!!! DID YOU SEE DONNA AT THE Y? SHE ROCKED!!!!