OT-Roommate troubles-need advice

I'm sure lots of ya'll know I'm in therapy, and one of the things we're working on is for me to express my feelings instead of stuffing them down with food or denying them. Well, I have one roommate who demands a lot of attention and energy. This guy was a theater major and everything is drama, drama, drama. It was so much fun to hang out with him before we became roomies, but now it's started to feel like a second job and I've begun to dread going home at night. My attitude towards him has been *****y lately, cause all the resentment I feel over being his own private audience has started to leak out that way. Well, yesterday he called me on it and told me how he didn't appreciate my attitude and it offended him, etx. He asked if there was something we needed to talk about, and I of course chickened out and said no. Well, I thought about it all night and decided I was tired of lying about how I feel and if he was going to call me out for my attitude (which I know is not cool) then I was going to explain it to him. I sent him a long email this morning, explaining very nicely what's been going on with me. Well, it's been two hours and I haven't heard from him. I'm worried that he's going to be a drama queen about this as well and be a complete ***** about it. Our lease isn't up until the middle of October so no matter what, I have to deal with him till then. Confrontations are so hard for me, I'm trying to learn how to have productive ones. Anyone have advice for me on how to handle this situation? Thanks guys! Kelle

Kelle Well if you want my two cents ...i think the email explaining how you feel was the right thing too do. And now you are just going to have to make sure you keep everything in check as you deal with the rest tonight ...If he is anything like i think he might be..he probly will nto say anything to you about it ..and ya know what that is ok ...Dont question it just follow his lead and go on about your life ...Like you said you have to stick it out for a few more months and then you can go your seperta ways ...but i think it is good that you told him how you feel and now the ball is in his court .....but just remember to always keep your cool and dont go *****y on him .... Laura

Thanks for the advice. I appreciate it. He seems to not be mad at me, so I'm just going to let it drop! Kelle

Hi, Kelle, Girl I would have to email you, to tell you what I would do. (lol) Mrs~Jackson

Kelle, I just wanted to say I can honestly sympathize with the whole roommate getting on your nerves and the not wanting to discuss your true feelings. I have had a roommate living with me as well the only thing is she is a slob and has 3 children that I have somehow ended up raising because she cant tell them no or discipline them. Now mind you I am happily married and have 4 boys myself. So needless to say this has gotten to the point that I finally had to say something to her and whether it hurt her feeling or not didnt matter. I have been stressing out. Taking it out on my family and it was tearing me up inside. You did the right thing. No matter how hard it was. Be proud of yourself for standing up for what you feel! Good Luck girl! Sunshine Kim

I just wanted to thank everyone for their advice and support. I did end up getting an email back from my roomie and it was incredibly kind and thoughtful. He told me he never meant for me to be his private audience, just wanted me to feel included. He told me how proud he was of all the work I'm doing on myself and the journey I'm on. It turned out to be a very good experience and it taught me that confrontations don't have to end badly which is just what I needed to learn at this stage of my therapy. It was awesome! Kelle