someone to stay with me in hospital

Hey Gang!! I am struggling with something that I hope I can get some help on. I can't decide whether or not I want my DH to stay in the hospital with me. Part of me says "yes" I want someone to watch over me at all times (I'm not saying the nurses aren't good....but....). Part of me says he needs to stay at home to get rested to take care of me when I'm at home. Part of me says I can do this on my own because I don't want him using his very limited vacation. I'm a big girl, I have alot of parts (LOL)!!! I want to be able to go on vacation with him when I get skinny (okay, I'll settle for just getting into a seat on an airplane comfortably). I have read on this site that alot of people do this all on their own. He will be there when he's not at work. So it's not like I'll be alone ALL the time. Thoughts anyone?

Kerry, Well here is my two cents ...I think you should let him stay at home and come and visit and all but not stay with you ...It really is not as bad as you think and they give you good drugs while you are there but let him stay home and get the house cleaned (i came home to a dirty house and i was lucky my mom came over and cleaned for me) and save his vacation so you can enjoy your new life together.....And also like you said you are very strong ...I mean you made this decision to have the surgery and you can make it one night alone in the hospital ...And if your like me you would be worring about him sleeping on a chair and not yourself But you can do it ...And save the vacation time for a GREAT vacation in the fall !!!!! Laura

After surgery all you'll want to do is sleep. Have him visit but send him home at night so he can get some good rest. Good luck to you!!! Sidney

Kerry, I've been with 3 family members that has had this surgery and I can't imagine not having somone be there for you. I feel you need someone to check in on you during he day, other that hospital people. If you need someone I'd love to help I live in conyers, Realtor by day, so I can make time for you. I'd be happy to, email me @ [email protected] Kerry, this offer is from my heart so please feel free to call on me. good luck on your journey to good health. Kathy.

Kerry, I don't know how long we'll be in there. I know Dr. Burrowes uses a different procedure than others - my understanding is we usually stay in a few days vs. overnight. Remember there will be other paitents going through the same thing you are!!! I don't have anyone to stay with me while I'm in the hospital....but I'm the kind of person that will make friends easily. I'd say he should spend the time with you at home.... Just my 2 cents!

Kerry, I have no clue who you are except for your profile, but I would be willing to stop by and visit for a moment. It might actually distract you from your day for a while. Please let me know. Thanks Holly

Kerry, I don't know about you but I can't wait to go by myself!!! I'm married with three kids (7, 5, 2) I can't wait to watch a little TV (not Power Rangers)Go to the bathroom without little fingers under the door and just have a little peace and quiet!!!!!LOL!!!!!My parents will come down from Tn. and Help my husband with the kids. I'm a pretty strong person and can be very independant It's just whatever is gonna make you comfortable!!!!!! Good Luck, I know everything will work out for the best!!!!! Carrie

I didn't want or need anyone to stay in the hospital. I din't really even know when someone came to visit. I geuss it depends on the hospital too. Emory had cameras in the rooms so if you just looked like you needed anything, they were there.

Kerry, Here is my two cents, I thought about letting my hubby go home, and just come and visit. I was wrong..and glad of it. After surgery you are going to need someone there for you. It's a real comfort zone.. trust me, been there and done that. Mrs~Jackson

I had my son in the hospital along with me but I did not have my husband. First, he was the only one to take care of the house and the pets, second, he did not want to miss up on scheduled vacation days which we spend together. Lastly and most important, I chose not to have him there because I think it would have stressed him horribly and make it worse. I am glad I made this decision. Everyone is different though. You should have someone with you if possible.