An update and a need to vent.

Hi all!  It has been a few moons since I have gotten a chance to post an update, so here goes! Well since I last posted, I have lost a little more weight.  I am currently at 194lbs, which is amazing for me.  I am almost at the weight I have had on my driver’s license since I was 16! LOL. I have been having lots of family troubles and my husband and I are probably getting divorced, and this is doing terrible things to my mental state as you can imagine.  I have found that my weight loss has made me more attractive and more confident and some times a relationship cannot survive through.  I don’t know why this has to happen and wow it sux, but what can you do right. I am currently 6 months out and have lost a total of 68lbs. My hair is falling out in clumps and this freaks me out a bit. From what I have read on here this is somewhat normal, but I’m hoping my new body will still be complimented by a full head of hair by the time I hit one year out. I'm only 26, but everything seems to be falling down around me.  And to make matters worse, I just lost my job that i had been at for 7 years.  So now both my husband and I don’t have jobs, have 3 kids and not a pot i **** in! LOL.  I hope that all is well with everyone on this board and welcome any feedback on what i can do for the excessive hair loss.

I don't have any advice about the hair loss because I'm not there yet.  I'm losing a few in the shower but nothing dramatic.  I just wanted to comment on how lucky you are to live in Alpharetta.  I went to a conference there twice.  It was called the Orange conference and took place at Andy Stanley's church called North Point.  I fell in love with the area.  There are so many beautiful homes there and that church was incredible!  Anyway, just had to give you a bright side since it sounds like you're going through a tough time!  Hang in there.  Things always look the worst before they get better!  :-)

Julie

I am sorry you are having a hard time. Things always get better. Congrats on the 68 pound loss! My surgery is Monday and I can't wait to be able to say that!!

Try Nioxin shampoo. It won't stop the loss - it is a cycle - but it will make it feel thicker and fuller. Start taking biotin for hair and nail strength.

So sorry to hear you're going through a hard time.  A lot of people get divorced post wls, but you never think you'll be one of the stastics.

As far as the job loss, that's a bummer.  Just hgo an apply for unemployment, food stamps, and Medicaid as soon as possible.   Don't feel shame about applying for this stuff. Millions of people all over the country are in the same boat you're in. These programs are what you've paid your taxes for.  Take advantage of everything out there.  You need to keep your savings and investments to pay your bills!

The hair loss is normal, but one of those things you wish wouldn't happen to you. I second the Nioxin opinion. I have pcos and it works for me.  They ahve a grest vitamin Recharging Complex I swear by.


We are having a meet n greet  in Alpharetta this month.  I hope you can make it.

Gin,
Im so sorry to hear about your relationship problems!   Remember when things get tough we dump on those we love the most!   You have financial issues plus the wls changes and that are deffinantly making  things harder than normal!   Hold on tight and hopefully you guys can pull thru the rollercoaster ride your on!!   Remember the reasons you fell in love to begin with, do something fun to get your mind off of things and  focus on your children. PicNic in the parks are a cheap family outting!    As far as your hair loss sounds like you need more vitamins and protein.   Check with Dr for advice!   
Hugs!
G

Hi,

About the hair loss, are you getting a minimum of 60 grams of protein in a day?  (Eating protein with every meal)  This is very important.  I know with everything you are going through right now you may not be concentrating on it.  But you do need to take care of yourself. 

Are you going to support group any where?  (We are having ours tomorrow night, Tuesday, July 7th from 5:30 - 7:00 p.m. I would love for you to join us, many people are experiencing exactly what you are going through and they may be able to help). I tell WLS people all the time, it is important for you to go to support group as well as your spouse.  You are changing, they don't understand it, if they went to support group they would see you are just like everyone else. 

I speak from experience, I was married for 20 years.  I am now divorced and have been for 3 years.  He wanted me to be the person I was before WLS and I refused to be that person.  Sometimes it is their insecurities, you changed Men are paying attention to you like never before and they just can't handle it.  I went to a marriage counselor (this does help).  Some churches offer it free. 

Also, you are seeing life in a new exciting way, you are changing and he is staying the same.   Remember this, the grass may look greener on the other side of the fence, but it still has weeds!  And sometimes those weeds are worse than the weeds you are dealing with already. 

Unfortunately no one said this would be a smooth road and sometimes it is very, very bumpy one!  But, I promise you things will get better.

I hope you can make it to support group.  Also, if you would like to call me, 770-751-2924 I would be happy to help you in any way I can.

Sorry, this was so long winded, but my heart hurts when I hear stories such as this, and if there is any way I can help you with a little less heart ache I will.

Much Love,

Ginger
NFRH
3000 Hospital Blvd.
Roswell, GA  30076

Wow -- I second and third everything that has been said in the above posts.  I would agree with the marriage counseling.