I knew the hate was coming! But not this soon!

I have a serious situation going on at W**k.  Here is the back ground information: A new co-worker was hired in July 2008 and she is a WLS patient who has failed with her surgery.This co-worker appears to weigh over 700 pounds. This co-worker was bragging to my co-workers that she had WLS about 5 years ago and lost about 300lbs. This co-worker has since gained all the weight back and now she is 4 months pregnant with her 4th child. The other co-workers are always telling her that I am a true Diva , a , who is bubbly, fun, full of life, and brightens up the office. They also have told this co-worker that I don't eat any junk or drink sodas. This co-worker has watched me eat small meals and snacks that I bring in my cooler. She is  her eyes a me and is slow to speak.
This co-worker spends her work hours eating real sugar (she denied to me tha she eat sugar, drink sodas, and eat fried foods).   She was not trueful.

This co-worker questioned me to see if I followed all of my doctor's rule for being successful with my WLS and I stated that I did. She then stated that she wanted to have a revision after she has her baby. My co-worker also stated that she would like to have her revision 2 days after having her baby.


I was told today by my 's that she could not stand me and would never speak to me. Now that I have reflected on the times I spoke to her, I do remember her not smiling or saying a word. I was shocked and  when I heard this. I have become a strong, confident, fun, loving ,  energetic person since I had WLS. I have lost 146 pounds since my WLS almost 4 years and I have not gained a pound.

Is she jealous?
Have I become something she wants to be?
Is she mean?
Is she unhappy?


How should I handle this co-worker?

Has anyone experience this from a co-worker?

Looking for suggestions from my OH.

Tammie

Sorry, I have no experience to help you.  And it did take me a few minutes to get over the fact that she's 700+ pounds and managed to get pregnant.  I'd love to know how that happened.  Besides that...don't waste your time and energy on this person.  She's not worth it.  You've worked very hard to get to where you are, you don't need her dragging you down.

Don't chat with her unless she starts the conversation.  A smile and a "good morning" is all that is required to keep a civil workplace.  Don't talk about her to others.  If others want to talk to you about her, you can politely say you aren't interested in gossiping about her, or something like that.  And if you hear any of your friends talking to her about you, you could pull them aside at a different time and ask that they don't discuss you/your situation with her. 

I hope this helps.
Elli

This actually has nothing to do with you personally.  It has nothing to do with the type person you are or aren't...it's what you represent to her.  You are what she wanted or expected to be after her WLS, and because she didn't reach that goal she doesn't like you for it.  The same would apply for a new job, a new car, anything.  I know it's hard but try not to take it personal, and be the loving caring person you always come across to be in your posts.  You can imagine how hard it is for someone to go through the surgery and then be right back where they started...most people feel like a failure before the surgery, and then failing after the surgery....that is a double whammy.

Just remember it's really not about you...it's about what you represent.

There will ALWAYS be people in the world trying to steal your joy.  Don't let it happen, because in actuality the problem she has is with her herself and not with you.

Continue as you have been, if she speaks.  Be cordial.  If not, Ce la vie....the world goes on.

No matter how good you are I'm sure it must be hard having someone look over your shoulder and critique every move you make!!!    Jealousy is a very evil thing in all aspects of life!! Some people are just unhappy people and can not stand that someone else has something that they want/need or had at one point in their lives.  

I'd say just continue to be yourself and kill her with kindness!!  Keep your friends close and your enemies closer!!!    The fact that you are nice to her will hurt her far greater than if your not!  Don't give her anything to talk about and your true friends will know that if she does talk behind your back who you really are!  Don't stoop to her level.  Continue to hold your head up You should be very proud of your self!!! 

Hang in there!!
Big Hug!
G

Ditto what everyone else said...exactly on the money. This isn't about you...it's about her plain and simple. Continue to do you gurl.

Yeah.. Everyone else is right!

Thank you all for the encouraging advice and it was taken to . I saw this co-worker today and I did speak to her. So I am going to treat her with kindness.


Tammie


Love my GA OH

Girl ......let your haters be your motivators  I can't wit until January 16th so that I can be on my journey like you. 

I am writing from expirience.... not from your side, but from hers.  I had my rny 7 years ago and then got pregnant.  After my surg. I lost 140 pounds and was estatic.    When I got pregnant I had horrible morning/ all day sickness and the only thing that eased it was snacking...... well, 7 months of forming this habit and destroying all the work I had done... I knew I was in for a new battle.  I have since gained back nearly 60 pounds and I am very upset about it.  I used to be able to tell everyone what I had done and now I am embarrassed.   I feel like a total failure.  I am sure she feels that way too.... and seeing you with your success hurts her because it reminds her of her failure.  I would never be rude or mean or even dislike someone for their success, but she may not beable to control herself.  So, please do be kind and encourage her that she can succeed again.   congrats on your hard work & success.  I hope to get a revision and get my life back again :)