lonley

I have no one to talk about this with. My hubby doesn't understand.... He is one of the lucky ones.. He is 6'2" and maybe a 160lbs. soaking wet with clothes and his work boots on. He's very sympathetic, but has no clue how bad I feel about  myself. He has always thought I could loose it on my own. YEAH RIGHT!!!  That was a joke. HE doesn't understand a woman's body and how hard it is for us. I need someone to talk to, b/c my excitment has turned into to terror.. Truthfully, I am both at the sametime, if that is possible...LOL.. Go figure.... My surgery will more than likely be later this year. I'm getting my labs done next week. Wish me luck.....

Hey there! My husband is probably the least supportive person in my circle. You just have to surround yourself with positive people. There will be a lot of people who don't understand, and they don't have to. Just remember that you are worth it! You deserve better health, and you deserve to feel good about yourself. You will find a lot of love and support on this forum. Use it for reinforcement when you are feeling down. If you weren't a little scared, you wouldn't be normal! It is scary to make "never go back" choices, but just keep the goal in your mind. You CAN do this, but not by yourself. I'm here for you if you need a new friend! Let me know how you're doing! I CARE!!! I'm in Athens--where are you?--Sue

Hey. I'm glad I got a response from anyone. I know the feeling. Myt husband doesn't really understand why I want to do this.  I stay positive, b/c if I don't I will never go through this.  I'm glad there are people like you out here. Thank-you. I'm in RIchmon Hill.-----danielle Add me and we can talk anytime.

You are so welcome! I'm here for you anytime, and I added you this morning so we can keep up with each other! Where is Richmond Hill?

Sorry I should have said Savannah.

Hi prisssy, I live just down the road from you in Brunswick. What kind of surgery are you looking into and are you having it done in Savannah? I will be around so if you need anything just let me know. There are going to be people that you have in your life that will not agree with surgery but You are the one that has to live with it. Once you start losing weight and are feeling better then you might see a change in him. Phyllis

Well hello there. RNY.  Don't get me wrong my husband, said he could go either way. He said he loves me the way I am, but I do not.. So, he's on board but just doesn't understand. You are right thought, my family doesn't understand, and they say I am crazy.....  I just moved from Brunswick about a mth ago.  If you are serious, I will take you up on that. danielle

Hey there Prissy! I like that name!  I live in Jacksonville but my daughter lives about an hour from you in Guyton.  She works in Savannah. Sometimes huuby's just don't get it.  At least he is supportive of you needing to have it for you.  That's good.  I had friends and relatives who questioned why I wanted to do something so drastic but believe me when you weigh 565 it calls for drastic because the other things obviously weren't working for me!  I think the biggest fear of friends and family (and a lot of times they don't even realize it) is that they are afraid that you will change.  And you will.  Since I had my surgery I have found that I like to fish and camp and travel which gives me less time to spend doing for and with other people but I still like the things I used to do and my friends and loved ones who stuck by me through thick and thin ...(well let's just call it less thick for now LOL). Hang in there my new friend and I hope everyone will come around for you soon.  They usually do once you start to lose some of the pounds and they see you becoming healthier, happier and more able to go out and do things and live life.  Kat

Thanks. You live a little over an hr from me. Maybe we can get together sometime. Mine says he gets it, but deep down he doesn't. He thinks I can loose it on my own. I'm 255,  and that is my heaviest. He doen't get it.  My family don't go there.. LOL... They will never understand.  I have kept a picture of what I looked like wehe I was thin... OMG.... Where did that person go??? I know I will change and I think that is what scares everyone. B/c then I will be doing more for me and less for them. Truthfull, I do not care if they come around or not. I"m doing this for me, and not them. You know what I mean...  The worse part is, my surgery will be in Weston, Fla., and I will not have anyone there with me at all.. I think that is what is scaring me the most. I have never been totally alone after something so major......

Hey Prissy! Sorry I took so long to reply to your message.  Somehow I missed it and was just erasing some things from my email when I found it. Wow girl you are going a long way to have your surgery.  Now are you having bypass or lap band?  Why did you choose this surgeon instead of someone nearer.  That will be rough not having anyone with you when you have your surgery.  4 of my 5 grown children were there with me. One daughter lives in CA and couldn't afford the trip. My hubby didn't go because he is disabled and has severe hip pain.  I didn't want him to have to be away from home and in pain for 3 days so I asked him not to go because I would have been worried about his comfort and how he was doing the whole time.  Now when he found out that my heart stopped on the table and I needed CPR he was really upset that he wasn't there.  I told him there isn't a thing he could have done (well he could have been there for the kids if I hadn't of made it through but Thank the Lord and Dr. Overcash I made it to the other side)  Also four of my support group members were there too and my 2 sweet little grandsons.  They are granny's heart!.  I had my surgery about 2 1/2 hrs. away from home but you are going several hours from home.   Do you go to any support groups?  I have been going to one for a long time. I started going  long before my surgery and still go.  It is a huge help to have people nearby who can help you and know what you are going through.  Do you have a surgery date yet?   I think your family will come around eventually.  Especially once they see that you are determined to do this. Next time I am going up that way I will have to let you know and maybe we can get together for a bit. Don't know when I will be going up there.  I am going to Atlanta  Friday for the conference and to visit with my sweet cousin for a few days then Sept. 18 I go to Ocala to see my doc., Oct. 6 is our Walk from Obesity, Oct. 12-13 is the ladies retreat at church, Oct 17 we leave for Virginia for my MIL's 90th birthday celebration.  Nov. 4 is my daughters BD, Nov. 17 is mine and my grandaughters BD then Thanksgiving Nov. 22 and Nov. 24 my baby girl (22yo well she'll be 23 then) is getting married.  WHEW!!!... I'll make it though I'm sure of it!  I may not have without my surgery.  That is the truth!  Before my surgery I couldn't walk from my living room to the bathroom without being out of breath.  I was on oxygen and CPAP too.  I usually didn't go out unless I absolutely had to and then when I got in my car it would take me 5-10 minutes to be able to breath calmly again.  There is an old saying that I first heard at Weigh****chers years ago that goes something like "The only difference between being 10 pounds overweight and 100 pounds overweight is time."  SO I say to you if you really believe in your heart that this surgery is the answer for you then go for it!   Ok Prissy I'm gonna get going.  Need to go load the dishwasher and talk to my daughter and get my tail in the bed.  I only slept a couple of hours last night so I am really tired tonight.   Take care! Kat