Could really use a hug.

I am so sorry to hear this. It is sad when the ones you are supposed to trust the most and love the most give you the most heartache. Well you know we all love you here and just keep us up to date the best way you can.

Thanks Angie! How are things going with your appeal?

Amy - life continues to amaze me - after I wrote to you that my oldest sister had called my second oldest called as well from Oregon to talk about the surgery as well.....another long conversation....she kept asking why I couldn't just do the pre-op diet for a year until it became a habit .....I paused and said very, very nicely...."has that ever worked for you"? she said no, and I said me either....if dieting worked none of us would have this surgery.....anyhoo.....she seemed much better by the time we got done talking.....I'm learning that most people who are against the surgery just need education.....lots and lots of education. Nancy

But this isn't a sister, its a mother in law. One who pushes way too hard. Confrontation is not my strong point, but I also do not want to be pushed around in this. ya know?

{{hugs}} I'm really sorry your MIL is being so difficult. Hopefully, when emotions come down a bit, perhaps she can be educated on the surgery? Maybe a good thing will come of your hurt, at least? I'm glad you've decided to stay! I know I don't post much, but your smiling face is one of the reasons I love coming here - so I'm really happy you're not leaving us!

awe, well thank you! If and when I open my profile again, I'll definately let everyone know!

A big hug and a kiss from Kissimmee. Hi my name is Heidi, I'm new here. I have read your profile and you inspired me so much. I hope that you don't stop coming to this messageboard. I'm just starting my journey and need all the support. Coming here to read the messageboard and profiles makes me feel better. I would like for some of you girls to call me if you want to help me NOT lose my mind hahaha. Here's my cell # 407-414-8633 ( Please call after 6:00PM ) I hope to see you around here. Have a nice day, Heidi

Awe, thanks. I'm trying to see about getting my OH ID changed. If I do that, I can make it active again, because she won't have the book mark.

I am sorry to hear the revealing of your thoughts has caused discord in your relationship with your MIL. Be yourself and let her worry about her attitudes. As a word of note to EVERYONE, what you type on the internet is in a virtual public domain. If it is necessary to keep something confidential, don't put it out there for the world to view. Use precautions of a shortened version of your name, location or email address. The forum of sharing is so vital to folks looking for like-minded journeyers and we all benefit by YOUR sharing. But protect yourself. Vicky

So sorry to hear about your situation. I hope you will continue to write down your journey and reflect on how you are doing/feeling/adjusting post-op. I think having my profile and journal has kept me focused and is very therapeutic. Now when I read through all I went through pre-op and in the first year post-op, I can truly appreciate where I am today (down 212lb). This journey is a long hard road, so don't let any one person be a roadblock for you emotionally. Hang in there and continue to surround yourself with those who will support your decision and build you up, you deserve it!