I asked him "about us"!

O.K. so I finally got up the nerve to ask him "were we always just joking?", and he said "yes, we were". I told him that I felt we had a lot in common and that he was a very good friend, and he agreed. We talked more, and I will see him off tonight. Yes, I'm glad I asked, no I'm not devasted by the answer, he is a nice guy and we WILL continue to be friends. Nothing has changed between us, I just have more clarification, and that is a good thing. Now on to possible guy #2... ~Sarah

Hi Sarah I read your previous post about "him" and I'm glad you finally got up the nerve to ask about you two. At least now you know and not wondering "what if?". At least you still have him as a friend and that's what's important. I fell in love with a friend once and when I finally got up the nerve to tell him, he didn't feel the same way, and it did hurt like hell. 8 years later, we're still friends and sometimes now he asks "what if?". Becky

I'm sorry it wasn't the answer you wanted - I hate when that happens!! But the important thing is that you're okay - and that everything will stay the "same" and you'll be friends. Onto #2!

Congrats on asking. Now you go on with the friendship and whatever else happens but you made a big step. Noooooooowwwwwwwwwww..........about this #2???? Keep us informed. Enquiring minds want to know. Carol

Now see here's the problem...I am flirty and such with what turns out to be men not interested in women, while guy #2 has made it a point to come to me and introduce himself, and at the time I was clueless as to what was happening. He had passed me in a golf cart, circled around and came back just to say hi, I didn't even give him my name...oh my, I looked him and know his name, but I still don't think he know mine...that's not good....gotta go.. Sarah

You are so brave!! Good for you Sarah! Well, I am excited for you, because this is just another step in your self confidence REgarding #2, he circled back? Huum, now that sounds like he is interested! Blessings and hugs, Tami

Sarah, Alot in common is good. Being open and honest is better. What a nice guy. He sounds like someone that will be a good friend. Don't let this get you down. There will be so many opportunities to meet people in the future. Be open to meeting people and really think about what works for you. Don't try to 'fit the mold' to please someone else. Just focus on what is important for you-like honesty and acceptance and enjoy meeting new people. I think you will find that your likes and preferences may have changed over time. The people we think are a good match, often aren't anymore, because we are changing. Give it some time, keep it light, window shop and keep smiling Girlfriend!! You are special. Don't jump and don't settle I really believe people come into our lives for a reason. It may not be clear to us at the time, but pay attention to your little voice. Think about the traits this guy has that you want to put on your list of "Pros" and "Cons". As my wise Mother always said, "Men are like streetcars. If you wait another 15 minutes, another one will come along". Just make sure that you're fishing in the right pond. Hugs, DN @ GOAL

Sarah--You are brave and strong--unlike me LOL. Jeepers Sarah--add mature to that form the great way you handle disappointment. Take care and good luck.