Why can't I tell him?
This guy I used to work with is leaving town tonight to move back home. Almost since the first day I met him we have joked about being "together". (a lot of sexual conotations) People have asked me if I had a crush on him and I didn't, but I do like him, we get along great. So slowly I have felt more towards him, but whenever I open my mouth a joke comes out. We had a farewell dinner last night and I asked him if he wanted to come over afterwards for sundaes, but he had to pack. Then when I got home I called him and asked what it would take to get him to stay down here, and then told him to come over and I would show him. He just laughed, then I told him he needed to come get his good-bye gift...again just laughs. My roommate pointed out I needed to drop the humor and just TELL HIM. So I got up the nerve to drive over to his place. He saw me pull up and asked what I was doing, I told him I was there to help him pack, and I did...help him pack for almost 3 hours, never once telling him why I really came over. So now the clock is ticking...I just can't seem to bring myself to tell him. I don't expect him to stay, I know he would if he could, I know I will see him again because he lives in the next state over from my family. Advice, encouragement....2 weeks ago I had a scope and my throat was really sore, I asked him to bring over some soda and pretzels, and he showed up with that and chicken soup! Check out my profile for a picture of us. I feel like I'm back in high school...which whenever someone found out I liked them it wasn't such a good thing, not always bad, but never the way I had wanted.
Sarah, You have been so brave to have this surgery. You have fought death and are winning the war to get your life back. You have dealt with disappointments, ridicule and just plain being fat and unhealthy.
You are a brave, strong soul. You will kick yourself very hard if you don't tell this man your true feelings. Be prepared he may not feel the same or may not have ever "thought" about it. It is still okay. Like you said, you will see him again later. Don't put any pressures on him to stay but just tell him you wanted to tell him this before he left. This way you all can continue being friends or whatever through the years, but you will have at least come out of your corner and said what you think. Apparently it is time.
(Attention: the preceding announcement is a strict opinion and may or may not be right but Hey! It is my 2 cents worth. 
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Good luck
Carol
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Good luck
Carol 
!!!! If not you will always guess yourself "what if"
Good luck!!
Rhonda 
Hey, Sarah - I know how you feel - I've been in LOTS of those love/crush scenarios and I've never told the guy that I've liked him - for fear of changing the situation or that he'd leave/reject me - in fact the guy in one scenario did find out that I liked him and he was a total jerk about it and I was so hurt both by the fact that some nosy body told him and yet still that he acted so stupidly but I would give anything to just have his friendship back - especially if he saw me now (though - I heard a rumor he was now gay) but anyway it sounds like you may have a more solid friendship and if I were in your shoes - I'D TELL HIM. You want to - you have nothing to lose - if he accepts he may stay or if he doesn't at least he won't be near by enough where it would be uncomfortable for both of you. I know I hate to the one to tell some guy I like them - I still am old fashioned in that I want HIM to ask me out or say something to me before me saying to him. I find myself there now again..liking someone who may be unattainable - I'd wish I had what you have and be able to say something about it. So my dear Sarah - I say TAKE A CHANCE!!! This could be a movie moment!! LOL 
Ya only live once - go for it!!!
Ya only live once - go for it!!! 
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