A friends passing.
I just found out that a old friend of mine passed away this morning. Thing is I am truely sad about this, but I am happy that I have had this surgery and will not have the same fate.
I met Tammy when I was 19 and she was in her early 30's. She was probably about 350-400 pounds at that time. I really felt bad for her, but I would see her comsume such quanities of food. She lived next to my ex-husband, we met at her house. My ex and her would have pizza with triple cheese, triple meat...triple everything! At birthday parties she would make atleast 2 cakes for only 10 people. A few years after I met her she fell down vacuuming her carpet and was taken to the hospital for knee surgery. They couldn't perform surgery til she lost weight and they kept her in the hospital on a special diet to help her out. She gained weight on it...I am sure her husband was bringing her food. She never had the surgery and she was brought home to a live in her living room in a hospital bed. Gosh that was back i***** I believe. Her husband took care of her needs, even remodeled the house to have double doors put in and expanded their living room to accomidate her hospital bed. She stayed in that bed and gained more and more weight. She got addicted to online chat and her husband finally left her. She met a guy online and he showed up at her house and never left, he has been taking care of her since 1997. I have thought of her occasionally...I have asked my ex about her and usually says he don't know how she is. Well today he came over and told me she died this morning. Her boyfriend called my ex's step-father and said that Tammy wasn't breathing...he rushed over and she was already blue. The EMT's said that her lungs were full of fluid because of the weight. My ex told me she was about 800 pounds now..I asked how did they even get her out of the house. They wheeled her out onto the porch in the bed and had to get a crane to come in and lift her. They can't even find a casket that is of the size they need. This does sadden me, it could of all be prevented...people were willing to help her years ago...but she didn't want to help herself. Atleast her pain is gone now....
Tracey
Wow Tracey,
What a sad story! I am so sorry.
It is such a great reminder to us all though...WE have to to take the step to help ourselves. No one can do it for us. Thanx for sharing the details of your friend's life and death with us... For me, it was a great reminder of why I am having WLS and that I am responsible for my health.
Sallykate
I'm so sorry for your friend's passing. I always thought I wasn't loved because I was fat - and here with beautiful heavy woman had someone to love her and yet she couldn't be reached to help herself. That is such a tragedy - and lesson to late to be learned. My prayers go out to her family and may the Lord console you as well. I know it has to be hard on you too. I thank God we all woke up before it's to late, and let us pray for others to wake up and do something before it's to late.
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