opinions needed....

It has been brought to my attention that i go from one extreme to the other, happy, mad glad, sad. it doesn't matter what is going on there are times that i snap. Today i am pretty level headed and re-read my profile. Please read and give me your thoughts. I don't want to be a thin wacko. I used food to cope before but know i dont and i act out in anger instead of food. Does this make sense to anyone?? Anyone else have issues like this?? Please help!! JenJen 295/199/145

alot of people that have this surgery need some type of physch follow up... this in no way means your crazy... i go to therapy every week... somepeople need to stablized on what are called mood stablizers... and i take one of those to... i do deal with the extreems... but they can be worked threw and you can work threw them to.. my advice to you is call a theripist and see what she thinks alexa

Hi Jenny! I have to agree with Alexa. Anyone of us who have been through this surgery really needs to work on why they became so dependent on food in the first place; not only to make the surgery work, but to make yourself feel whole again. It took me many years to figure out what really drove me to overeat and now that I have had surgery and lost almost 130 lbs, I have been concentrating more on the mental part of my health, for example stress management, depression, etc. I too take a medication for depression and from what I have read in your profile, you may need that and/or counseling. When I read your writings, I felt like I was reading entries from someone *****ally still has no respect or love for theirself. I don't say this to be mean or hurt you, though. I don't even know you. I just want you to know that you deserve better. Take a deep look at the relationship you have built with Travis and ask yourself, do you love him as much now as when you were heavier? A lot of women get stuck in that low self esteem rut, where they fall in love with the first man who pays them any attention when they are heavy. They are so used to not having men look at then or want them that they have a hard time letting go of all that negativity. Your entry about meeting the other man when you were out with your friend, shows that you are not in love with Travis as much as you think. Perhaps you are just stuck in your comfort zone. You are a beautiful person and you have a lot to offer the world, but you need to take care of yourself first and foremost. Trust me, I have been there and in some ways still am. Good luck and feel free to write anytime! Kathy