Question/Conflicted

Didin't write any letters but did have my affairs in order. Hell, we can drive to the store for milk and not make it back home if one idiot decides to run a red light, right? I think it's smart to be prepared, meaning will, insurances paid up, having someone be aware of where your important papers are and how to access accounts if they need to, then leave it to God to guide your caregiver's hands. I talked with family members and everyone knew the situation. For people with young kids I think a letter would be smart. Hope this helps, DN @ GOAL

Kim, I had a simple will prepared (mostly because I am single and a home owner) and also did a Power of Atty so my sister and Mom could handle any of my affairs. I didnt write letters, but I thought a lot about it. Instead, I just told everyone how I felt and what I needed done if anything happened. It gave ME peace of mind, but they didnt really want to talk about it. Do whatever you feel is best for you and your family. Good luck Amy

Thank you ALL for your wonderful replies! I think I'm going to take the advice of most of you and just talk with my family and loved ones. I really am not worried about this surgery. I have a GREAT feeling about it and I LOVE my surgeon! And you guys are right, anything can happen to anyone and any time! LOVE YOU ALL!! HUGS Kim

I didn't tell my family that I was having surgery and I only had an angel with me. My angel used to be a member of this board and had WLS a month before me, but now has dropped off the face of the earth and I miss her!!! Anyway, I only made sure that my cats would have a proper home if I died, but didn't leave any letters because my family knows I love them, even if I didn't talk to them about the surgery. They found out about the surgery right afterward anyway. I guess to write or not to write is just a personal decision you will have to make for yourself. Jan

I thought about writing letters to each of our children and then one long one to my loving husband, just in case. I feel that by doing that I am inviting the notion of dying! I do tell my family how much they mean to me and my husband knows I love him and will forever. I just am afraid that my little ones wont remember me . I also thought of a video or dvd to speak directly to them because I want to be a sucess and the dvd may help them help me more from the heart after the surgery then from the (Ihave to stance) KWIM?. Anyway, I too am struggling with this and don't plan on telling my other family bsides my Father, that I am going to do the DS. I want to just see them one day al slender and feeling good about me and have them say WOW Bren, you look great!! Just the surprise on their face will be so fulfilling. I am rambling and I do that when I get nervous sorry. Good luck with what ever you decide to do . Brenda Lee.

i didnt even think of it.... but i told me mom what i wanted ( not like she would have listend anyway) but i told her... i told her i didnt wanna be on life support if i needed to be... i didnt even think of teh letter stuff