How Rude

I guess because I'm fat I'm not supposed to have feelings. My hubby and I were in Walmart today, doing our grocery shopping, just like we do every Saturday. We were walking down the aisle minding our own business, and I see these 3 women walking toward us. I didn't think anything of it, just told my husband what was next on the list. He walks off, so I'm standing there alone and the women walk by and look at me and say "Good God, that's disgusting!" My hubby heard it and looked at him and asked if I was ok. I am SO SICK AND TIRED of people thinking we don't have feelings!! Sorry needed to vent! Kim

WHAT???!!! I am stunned. Kim you know my opinion of you...and you know I mean it when I say you are absolutely stunning. Then again I have met ya in person, so of course I would know and so would anyone else that does not have such horrible self-esteem that they MUST put others down to make themselves feel good for 5 seconds. People like that, I'm sad to say, are one day going to find themselves being the brunt of of someone elses shallow comment. Kick those words to the curb girl cuz you are on your way to the healthier Kim trapped inside and soon remarks like those will be just a gloomy memory that no longer haunt you. You go girl and let nothing stop you cuz you are worth it AND deserve it! Hugs and Sally

I am so sorry that happened to you. You are right about some people. They seem to think because we are fat, we have no feelings. I hate that but remember they probably are the same ones that turn away from other people with disgust because of other differences. You know, different hair, maybe a wheelchair, or crutches. Just ignore them the best you can. Remember Soon you will have lost the weight and be healthier and THEY WILL STILL BE RUDE OLD WOMEN. Carol

People are only that vile when they are sickened by themselves. Their rudeness only reflects their own insecurity within themselves. You are a beautiful human being. If you knew me, you'd know I do not blow smoke up people's @$$es either, I mean what I say. I go through the same thing everytime I go out somewhere. I get off on knowing that not only am I smarter than those sort of people, but I can also see through them like glass. (I swear- I am not ****y-just 25 years of fat experience) Have a wonderful rest of your weekend. Kim

Kim, Wait, I know those girls and so many more like them! I have dealt with their comments, looks, rudeness my entire obese life. There have been times when I wanted to get back in their faces and other times I wanted to just crawl into a hole. There are a few incidents, that no matter how hard I try, I can still remember the comments and how deep it hurt or how embarrassed I was because they said it in front of family, employees or friends. Reality is that people like that will always exist and a tough exterior is something we have to develop to tolerate their comments and rudeness so we can move forward in our everyday life. I can tell you is that within a few months after my WLS, those comments became less common to hear and now most strangers actually look me in the eye when they talk to me. I was invisible to so many people before, I guess people were so disgusted that they felt they couldnt look at me or speak to me. Not to mention, I am sure my weight has prevented me from advancing and has impacted other's perceptions of me in my professional life . I'm sure there are still comments being made today, but I don't hear them, maybe that's because I am too proud to listen, I walk with a lot more confidence and wear my fat body better than before so I can shrug it off easier. This board is truly wonderful because so many on here have experienced all that we have and it is the perfect place to come for support or to vent when NO one else can understand. I have been thru exactly what you experienced SO many times and just wanted you to know you are not alone . Amy

I have a couple of comments on your post. First of all, it's bad enough that these people don't realize we have feelings, but not to be aware that we have HEARING is even more amazing!!! What if you had said to your hubby within their earshot "Gee, you can tell from the look on their faces, they don't have the intelligence God gave to a grape!" How would they feel. Idiots!! Also, I echo what Amy said. I've noticed more and more that as I lose weight, I'm more and more visible to people. They look me in the eye and strangers smile in elevators and say hello. I was pretty invisible before and it's actually not a good feeling that I'm not invisible anymore because it means that there are still a lot of people out there being ill-treated just because of the way they look. Shrug it off and be thankful you're not hurtful and mean like these people are!! Jan

I agree with the above people. Too bad for the women who caused you pain, that they view things through "foggy" glasses and cant get past a persons outward appearance. Just because someone is overweight doesn't mean that we can't Hear, see, have feelings, etc) We are someone's mother, daughter, grandmother, wife, friend, sister, teacher, BOSS, priest. Being overweight doesn't make us "less" of a person, rather makes us so much more as we strive to make sure that everything we do, we do as well or better than someone who doesn't have a weight issue. I feel truly sorry that those "ladies" (and I use it loosely) could not see past their own ignorance to the beautiful person you truly must be. Sincerely, Mary

Jan I agree with you that these people have the brain power of a lizard, but the shame of it is think that they were most probably WELL aware that Kim would hear them. They just get off on putting others down. It's the only way they can feed their own insecure egos. Is say, to hell with them. DN @ GOAL LadyBodFit.com

I think people like that are the scum of the earth. Fine, if they want to be discusted by us, fat people, that's their own shallow problem. But, why do they have to say it out loud and hurt us like that?!! I am so sorry you had to feel the pain of such words, trust me hon, I know the pain, I was married to one of those jerks for 5 years. Please, don't let that bother you anymore. I'm sure that B**** won't lose any sleep over it, so you shouldn't either. You have too much going on in your life right now to devote another second to that stupid, rude, and childish coment. Time is money, don't give her anymore of yours! -Flávia

Kim, those women are the losers. What can someone say to something so rude and ignorant? Sorry you had to be the recipient of their stupidity. Can you imagine what they teach their kids? Just take the high road DN @ GOAL