Surgery is Monday

My RNY is scheduled for Monday. I am having a really tough time tonight wrapping my head around it as my father just died this morning after a 5-week fight in the hospital. Although he was nervous about the surgery he supported my decision. At first I thought of postponing. But my father was a real stickler for commitments. My father's passing really has me thinking about my own mortality, and what would happen to my husband and two-year-old? I am also thinking that maybe it doesn't matter where MY head is, only that of my surgeon?

Kristen, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. I'm sure your father will be smiling down on you as you travel along your WLS journey. I cant offer you any advice on whether to postpone your surgery or not because that is such a personal decision. But if I were in your shoes, I would discuss it with my family and get their opinion and support. Whichever decision you make, try to not have any regrets. Take care. Amy

My heart goes out to you. May you find peace of mind and the love and support of your family and friends during this time.

I want to send my condolences on your father's passing. Amy is right about talking this over with your family. I am sure you will make the best decision for you. Since your father was supportive of your decision then I am sure he is watching over you during all this. If his passing was stemmed from an obesity problem there may be even more reason for you to continue on. Which ever you choose, please keep us informed. We will support you and send good thoughts and prayers your way. Carol

I am so sorry ot hear about your father. Whatever you decide, we will be here for you.

We are all here for you. I know how tough it is to lose a loved one. I am sure you father would want you to have a healthy life (esp. if he did support your sugery), remember that. Discuss it with you husband. If you do not feel deep in your heart that it is right, then do not do it. However, getting healthy means a long life ahead of you. I wish you the best. My thoughts and prayers are with you. sincerely, Kim

Although I knew that these are very supportive boards, I am overwhelmed by the outpouring of support during this very difficult time. Thank you to you all! I have spoken with my family and they want me to continue and not postpone the surgery. That has been their opinion all along. I started asking them last week, since I had the feeling that my father was moving towards the end of this life. He fought until the very end, my valiant and courageous Dad. I am also a little nervous because I just started supplements yesterday, haven't started the new way of eating yet (I was scheduled two weeks ago, yet my nutrition/pre-op class was late last week). But if the surgeon thinks that's alright, it must be so. Thank you again for the hugs, prayers and support. You are all so wonderful.

Wow, I'm so sorry you lost your father!!! My father will be gone 3 years in November and I still miss him so much. Just this last week I wanted to talk to him so badly. I think you will make the right decision for you whether to have the surgery now or not, but it sounds like you already know your father would have been for it. I'm so glad to hear you have family around you during this time; it must be so tough! Jan

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. I wish I had some real pearls of wisdom to offer you but I don't. I will ppray for you and your family, and I will send warm wishes and positive thoughts as you make this surgical decision. Whatever you do, please keep us posted.

My prayers are with you and your family.... Best wishes for a new healthy life