need some help for a wonderful man

hello , i am placing this post for my husband who is also new to the oh family his name is ray and he is 530 and a bmi of 89 he suffers from congestive heart failure and lyphodema and arthritis thoughout his body the reason i am writting this is because he really needs help he needs clothes urgently he has 5 t shirts that are all stained and about 5 pairs of shorts this man is great friend to all that he comes in contact with he gives and gives and gives he will help anyone that needs help and at times he is mostly used by his brother and his sisters which makes me angry but he is too kind to say anything he has taught me that not all men hit and that there is real love in the world left and that people are good see i was in a abusive realationship b4 i met him and when my ex would act like he was going to touch my face he slapped me around and his son knocked my teeth out with a bat i was so depressed and panicky and suicidal when i met him now i have over come my fear of people and am outgoing and social i also have finally let him caress my face sometimes i jump still when he does that but i am better he has taught me that i matter and i am worth something and that he loves me through his love i have over come alot of obsticals see its not for me but for a wonderful man that desperatly needs some help i think that he will get more confident about himself and maybe he can see what i do in him he would never ask anyone for anything i would like to suprise him if i did recieve anything for him he is so deserving of this we have no money other than for bills he gets 500 a month and i get 71 when i married him i lost the rest of my ssi thats the way they work i guess out of that we have to pay all the bills and when i get my 71 for the month i go to the store and get groceries for the 2 of us for a whole month thats pretty hard to do too i just pray that we will make it all month so many times we have run out of food sometimes i just wonder what eles is going to happen to us i know everyone has problems and i am not trying to whine but we have had several repairs to our car and we have no funds for either one of us for clothes he is in a 5/6 x and he is a 13 in shoes which he needs urgently also so if anyone out there has some clothes to spare please drop me a line i live in lehigh acres we will send a little at a time to reimburse for the postage we just dont have it now thankyou please find in in your hearts to help us out Holly Smith

Ok, First have you've & He applied for Food Stamps? And Contacted/Go to the Local Church Pantry, Salvation Army, Goodwill & St.Vincent DePaul Society. ALL of these will help you not only with food but with clothing and help with your bills such as electric & gas (cooking & heating kind). Now Have you've had your surgery as your profile says hoping? And your choice of Surgeon is up in Largo. There are others closer to you. If your comcerned about expenses? This coming Saturday October 21st at 2/230PM is my Surgeon's Seminar/Support Group at the Palms of Pasadena Hospital's Professional Medical Bldg. 1609 Pasadena Ave. Saint Petersburg. they have two huge racks of cloths for the pickings! Soon to be donated to a Charity as Christmas is coming. They are Free, but you must come to pick from the racks. One for Mens stuff & One for Wimans stuff. Many of us as you are on fixed budgets too.

thankyou for you time we are on food stamps and medicaid the reason i have to go to largo is that i havent found any other surgeons here in the lehigh ft myers area i started looking in june i am fighting my insurance company for my surgery i have already had all the tests and had my consultation for surgery they will not do the surgery in my area so that is why i have to go so far i am sorry if it sounded like i was crying on a shoulder thanks for the info

Holly there is no need to apologize, We are here to help each other. I'm on Food Stamps and Disability. Plus needed to get a part-time job to get by. I'm lucky as my insurance gives me a free gym membership or I wouldn't be going. I'm planning next years OH Conferene out of the goodness of my heart with no compensation what so ever. Wanting it to be a Conference put together by OH members to cover our needs. And supporting everyone, covering subjects such as your needs. There's more to life than just getting the surgeries and moving on...........

Hi Holly, First of all thanks for the courage to share! I am the Bariatric Coordinator at Morton Plant Mease and work closely with your surgeons. I will put the word out to our support group members and see what I can come up with in regards to clothing. Please feel free to call or email me at anytime with questions or if you just need some emotional support. My office number is 727-461-8658 and my office email is [email protected]. PS I used to live in Lehigh Acres myself, back in the late '80s and early 90's. Julie Douglass

wow nice to meet you i am trying to get my surgery approved but i have staywell and the drs office dr gordon s that is told me that i have to have one yr of medically supervised diet b4 i can go and have my surgery i had my consult in august i wish there was a way i can get to have it sooner as i have degenertive disc disease and arthritis in my back some days i cant even get off the bed i need my husband to help me but enough about me ray my hubby is going to be so suprised if we recieve anything , but just the thought of you taking time from your work to write us is suprise enough you dont know what this will mean to us thankyou and take care Holly Smith i am at 1300 woodward ct apt 44 lehigh acres fl 33936

Hi Holly- I wanted to drop you a line while I was at a computer real quick. First off dont feel you need to apoligize EVER for expressing yourself on an open forum board,,,,not all see you as looking for pity or a shoulder to cry on. I myself see you as being honest and having the faith and courage to ask for help. GOD will NEVER put us through anything to hard to handle. The power of prayer and faith is truly amazing. YES as someone commented "alot of us are on fixed incomes" but DONT think for a second that ALL people on fixed incomes subscribe to that particular expressed point of view as well. I have always prayed upon God's will being done and I have always had answers come to me with peace in my heart. I will add you to my prayer list and ask you to please email me so we can converse. This too will pass Holly, stay strong and pray : ) Margo Marie

Holly, Hi! I know what you mean dear. Finances are very hard for my family right now as well. But I believe in my heart that God is going to help me through my surgery and one day I will be able to return to my nursing career. I do have some large size mens clothing from cleaning out my husbands closet a couple of weeks ago. They are varying sizes but most of the pants are 58 up to 62. Do you think any of those will fit your hubby? There are several long sleeve dress shirts, several suit jackets and at least one navy blue blazer also. They are a little dusty from hanging in the closet and I really can't afford to have them all cleaned. If you think your hubby can use them I would be happy to send them to you. You can email me if you would like them and give me your address. I wish you well on your new journey with a partner who loves you and treats you with care and respect. I hope you both are blessed to be able to get your surgery and build a wonderful new life together! Kat [email protected]