I am having a lot of trouble

I had surgery almost 2 yrs ago and lost 80 pounds. I was almost at goal then I started eating again, I snack all day long and can't seem to stop myself. I gained back 20 pounds. I am disgusted with myself, but yet I do nothing about it. What is wrong with me and why do I not care enough to change? Some encouraging words would be helpful. Thanks

Old habits are hard to change. You still have the tools and the knowledge of WLS so you need to find the motivation that directed you to choose surgery. I don't know if you attend a support group, but I would start there. If you don't have the ability to attend a local support group, find an OH Site buddy that you can share with and be accountable to. You can do this....I know you can. luvitsunnyv

Sheri, If you don't attend a support group find a group and start going. Call your surgeon's office and schedule an appt. to discuss your eating patterns & what your food plan should be at 2 years out. Also ask your dr. to check you throughly to be sure the reason you're eating all the time isn't b/c you've had a physical "failure". If your surgeon confirms that your pouch & bypass are intact you need to sit down & think about what you are doing to yourself. You need to remember why you opted to have a major, life-changing surgery. You also need to honestly look at why you are sabotaging yourself. You may need counseling to help you get back on track but you can do it! The fact that you've come to this board to ask for help is the first step in the right direction. It shows that you know you've got a problem and that you want to change what you're doing. Good luck on your journey! Vickie J.

old habits die hard don't they. We"ve all been there and know the struggle. I agree with the others, a support and accountability group is what works for me. I go every week, because I am addicted to food, and when I am upset or stressed I tend to go back to old habits. Try to get the junk food out of the house, go back to the protein, fruits and vegetables and don't get too co mfortabe with the foods you can eat now. This is when the hard part come in, when we are tempted to go back to bad habits. Keep us posted, start anew today, you can do this and we can help encourage you on, let us know how you are doing, OK?/ Don't beat yourself up over this...just start new today, OK? blessings, Tami

You are great. It is really hard to say what you just say Sheri. I agree with the others too. Be strong Sheri, you look so good in the pic (But I like men ) Ps:It is my English getting wore and wore everyday??? Take care and keep it up !!! GBY Angeles

Sheri - remind yourself why you wanted to have surgery and change your life, eating habits. Look for those photos of your former morbid obese self and then look when you started your wow moments and what that meant to you. I was just pulling pictures to find a photo and when I saw my former fat pictures and I was totally disgusted and cried because I didn't understand how I let myself get to that point but it also served as a reminder of where I am and I AM the one that can make this surgery as successful or a failure. Sheri - YOU hold the key. Pull out those rules that you did those early days - not necessarily that you want to be on liquids but things that put you on track - like eating 3 square meals a day with one healthy snack at night. Drinking more water, fluids, limiting soda if that is a big factor in your life. Put more exercise if you have put that by the way side. I ENCOURAGE YOU to move and get back to basics. I believe you can do it!!!!!!!!! Focus on losing 5 lbs and then another 5 and so on until you get back on losing those 20 and if you want to lose more then go for it. If necessary - seek therapy - maybe something has triggered tihs eating behaviour and a qualified WLS friendly therapist can help sort things out... nothing wrong with that. Get back on track. YOU CAN DO IT. Best of luck to you!! Hugs,

Hi to everyone that responded: Let me tell you all THANK YOU! I should give some more background on me. I moved to S Florida from Idaho 6 months ago. I had surgery in Idaho so my surgeon's not even here. My current insurance does not cover this surgery. In the last 6 months, we (my husband and I) have had a MAJOR falling out wth his family (they are im Idaho), my father passed away in April and we are struggling financially to survive here, my mother is not supportive (never was) and thinks anyone over 120 pounds is fat. My husband and her DO NOT get along. My husband has been sonderful and my 4 yr old loves unconditionally. Maybe a support group will help. I have a Thyroid condition that is bad right now (my last TSH was 18.67) so maybe that is the problem. I am just not sure anymore. How do I get a support buddy? I really don't know anyone in S Florida? Thanks Again, Sheri

Sheri - I know how you feel I too have just moved from Alabama to Florida and my surgeon is back home. I myself need to find a support group because I miss the interaction. I come here daily though and try to post each day it just makes me feel accountable and plugged in to what I am doing. I haven't had food struggles yet I am about 8 months out and still don't have much hunger at all. I can eat more now but that is normal and I try not to let it freak me out. I can tell you have had all sorts of things going on lately but you have got to keep yourself at the top of all that is happening. You decided to put yourself first when you had your surgery so keep that in mind all the time. It is very easy to loose ourselves in the midst of living that is the one thing I have learned the hard way is not to neglect myself. Please don't get me wrong I am 100% devoted to my family however I get the attention I deserve now. I take care of myself and eat right for "me" and that is what you have to get back to doing! I will be happy to be your "buddy" and do anything to help you!