Thought it wouldn't happen to me

Thank you so much for your wise words. At the rate my family is going with stress and problems I am wondering why God is mad at us. My mom and I are going to attend church on Sunday, I need something to help me. Hugs Tracey

Oh Tracey.....hugs, my heart is with you. I know there are no words right now, so I will lift you up in prayers and pray for God presence and peace upon your life. Give yourself time to absorb this, it doesn't mean its over, perhaps its a cry for help. Will he go to counselling with you? Don't let bitterness and anger cause you to do and say things you may regret, as there is still hope. I'm always here for you, you can call me or email or whatever. I've been where you are and I know its a hurting and lonely place. But lets hope and pray for restoration and healing. As you said it has been a stressful year. Perhaps you two will be able to talk and find out what can be done to start moving closer to each other. Is he talking to you at all? If so, that is a good place to start. Have you told him you don't want to give up either? I'm in your court Tracey, and praying for you girlfriend. much love and support, Tami

Hugs Tami, you always bring a smile to my face. He isn't talking to me as of now. Last night I talked and talked and talked about counseling, giving it a chance, working it out, he said he don't think he can do that. I told him we have to be positive about things and talk it out. I was logically thinking last night, thinking quite clear about things. He told me over and over that he loves me, but he can't open up to me anymore because of my emotionally reacting to issues. He hasn't been open with me in a long time and this has been a topic of discussion before. He has lost himself in online games and I tell him our marriage can't work with him doing it all the time. I told him moderation of the games and please spend time with his family and do things outside the home. He would agree and it would last a day or two. He kept telling me that he would never leave me, that we would work on things with his addiction and spending more time together. I feel so betrayed right now by his actions. Thank you so much Hugs, Tracey

Tracey, You do need to see a Dr. sooner than later. I mean the change with me was instant. My husband was even scared that I was "acting" or doing it myself to make him think I was getting better. However, day after day my old self showed up and he realized then that I honestly had a medical problem and I wasn't being that way because I could help it. Also, make sure they do hormone level testing on you. My hormones were all out of wack which didn't help things at all. I would try to get him to go with you to the dr. appointment that will show him you are trying and also give him the ability to talk to him as well. My dr. explained to us both that depression and anxiety disorders are real things and not just "wacky" people who couldn't keep it together. I am normally a very upbeat and friendly person. That is the person my husband fell in love with. I didn't know who I had become or why I had gotten so down and out. I did get help though and that was the first step. I am so glad I did and the old me is back! I have a feeling everything will work out just fine ... try not to worry!

I am going to call right now...you are so right. Thank you! Tracey

Here is something off of www.lexapro.com that has lots of helpful info. on it if you wanted to check it out. This is about GAD what I have with depression. When you get the Dr. on the phone tell them you are having a major problem and you need in ASAP! ******************************************************** GAD Given the stresses of modern life, it is normal to experience occasional anxiety. However, people with generalized anxiety disorder, or GAD, suffer from persistent worry and tension that is much worse than the anxiety most people experience from time to time. The high level or chronic state of anxiety associated with GAD can make ordinary activities difficult or even impossible. The main symptom of GAD is an exaggerated or unfounded state of worry and anxiety, often about such matters as health, money, family, or work. Although people with GAD may realize that their anxiety is excessive or unwarranted, they are unable to simply "snap out of it." For them, the mere thought of getting through the day can provoke anxiety. The persistent worrying characteristic of GAD is hard to control and interferes with daily life. Many GAD sufferers seem unable to relax and may startle easily. In addition, GAD is often accompanied by physical symptoms, such as fatigue, headaches, muscle tension, and gastrointestinal problems. GAD develops over time GAD does not appear suddenly; it develops over time. To be diagnosed with GAD, a person must experience the following1: Excessive anxiety and worry about several events or activities for more than half the days in at least 6 months Trouble controlling these feelings The presence of three or more of the following symptoms, some of which are present for over half the days in the past 6 months*: -- Feeling restless, edgy, keyed up -- Tiring easily -- Trouble concentrating -- Irritability -- Increased muscle tension -- Trouble sleeping (initial insomnia or restless, unsatisfying sleep) The anxiety and worry aren't suggestive of another mood disorder The symptoms cause severe distress or impair a person's ability to function at work, socially, or in some other way It's important to know that there are many different illnesses that can lead to symptoms of anxiety. Your doctor or other healthcare professional must rule out other possible causes (including other medicines or illegal drugs) before diagnosing you with GAD. Anxiety is not the same for everyone Symptoms of GAD vary from person to person, and you don't need to have all the above symptoms in order to have GAD. That's why GAD can be difficult to diagnose. Some patients with GAD first decide to go to see their doctor because of stress-related complaints such as headaches or problems sleeping. Be sure to seek the assistance of a healthcare professional so he or she can determine if you have symptoms of an anxiety disorder. If you think you may be experiencing anxiety symptoms, take the simple GAD self-screener and then discuss the results with your healthcare professional. Did you know that the symptoms of generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) and depression can overlap? Or that a person can experience both conditions at the same time? Learn more about the overlap of GAD and depression

thanks for the info...sounds really familiar. I called my PCP then told me to call my insurance, I got numbers for counselors and psychiatrists, no one could help me today. I called back to my PCP and got an appointment for tomorrow morning. Tracey

Tracey--I am sorry to see the pain you are going through.{{{Hugs}}} I really hope that each day gets a little better for you. My thoughts are with you. Your Mom sounds like a really smart woman.

Hugs Lynda...I have my appointment with my PCP for the depression and stress I have had for a long time. I guess a little too late I should of done this awhile ago, but I need to get healthy for myself. Yeah my mom is really smart, she is helping me out a lot...got a call into a lawyer right now. Hugs again Tracey

Tracy!! I'm soooo soory this is happening to you...I know how painful a breakup is!!! I can only offer my deepest prayers and hope that you can seek some counseling for yourself to help you deal with all the crazy emotions. Dr. David Baker Hargrove is one of the best counselors that I can suggest since he is also a WLS counselor..he has been great dealing with some issues I have had. Both of you guys need time to sort things out so take the needed time but know that we all here at the Florida boards are here for you with hugs, and kisses and best wishes and prayers for you during this difficult time. If there is anything I can do to help, even if to take the kids for a little while - you let me know!!!!!!!!!!! HUGS, Ruthy