Thought it wouldn't happen to me

Thank you so much Ruby...I just wish I could go to sleep. I took a pain pill before our conversation and it never kicked in because of all of the emotions running rampant. Hugs Tracey

Tracey, I am new here so I don't know you like the others and I don't have a history with it all .. however I do want to tell you I am sorry you are going through all this right now. I actually had the VERY same thing happen to me about 10 years ago. My husband and I did get a divorce and it was very very difficult. I was like you in the way that I was upset of course but not deep down upset because we had been having problems. My ex is a good person but wasn't a great husband he was a very cold person and very self absorbed with sports, hunting and fishing. I guess when I look back I was really "alone" even when we were married. I did meet a wonderful man and remarried in 2003. I now know how marriage is supposed to be with both parties plugged in and contributing to the relationship. I have a good relationship with my ex and he is a good father and person. It took some time to work through the hurt of the divorce at first but now things are good. I hope that you can try to work on your marriage and hopefully save it so you don't have to get a divorce. I guess I am just saying things have a way of working themselves out for the best. Whatever happens you will be stronger because of it and you just keep your chin up! If I can do anything for you or you need someone to talk to please just let me know! I hope your day gets better!

I am hoping it gets better. Troy was my marriage of how a marriage was suppose to be and it was for awhile. When all the unexpected stress happened at around the same time it kinda sent me for a loop and I didn't handle things good at all. For the last 2 years I have been dealing with my surgery, a sinkhole, and my father passing away. I am the first to admit I had issues with dealing with the stress, lashing out...speaking before I thought it over. He knew I was stressed out and said he was in for the long haul and things were going to get better. We know how that ended already. He told me last night he knows I have changed but it is too late and he won't open his heart to me again, but he loves me. I am hoping no divorce either, I love him with all my heart, even with all the things that irk me..that is marriage. I did get him to say before he left this would be a break and we need to talk later on. I don't know what to believe right now. Thanks for the support, I appreciate it. Hugs, Tracey

Tracey, I too am sorta sorry but it's his lost. So now where is the line to go out with you? Gotta laugh as it'll make you feel abit better. . Your not laughing are you. Have you've been to this section of the OH? It seems there is quite a few ladies & gentlemen too that are going or gone through the seperation too. http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/sex_before_and_after_wls/ Your coming to the OH Conference right? We'll party and make you feel much better. Check out postings for Hotels & Meet-n-Greet info for Friday night. Meet you there. Mike

You made me laugh thru the tears..thank you so much. I have been to that area and it kinda scared me...the wildside of me got push down 6 years ago. I need to go find it...I need to have fun again. I was planning on going to the conference, I told my mom last night before this all happened...I need a break if just for a day and half would be great. My mom was going on vacation at that time...I am going to wait a couple days and talk to her about it again. Thanks for putting a smile on my face, if only for a brief second. Hugs Tracey

ohh tracey sending big hungs and major thoughts your way... lexa

Just take it day by day and hopefully later on your guys can sit down and talk. I went through a very rough patch before my surgery with depression. I knew I wasn't the same and that I wasn't acting normal but couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. I was just miserable and I wasn't a cheerful person to be around that is for sure. My husband was at his wits end my kids didn't know what was going on with me. I finally went to m dr. who is wonderful diagnosed me with depression and GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder). I have never been big on taking medication but I do take 10 mg. of Lexapro each day. This is just enough to help me with my GAD and keep me from being a crazy b@tch. LOL This all has happened with the man I am married too now and it does create lots of stress but we made it through all of that and my surgery so there is hope for you guys as well!

I know I am having problems and I told him a week ago that after my semster is done I am going into get checked up for depression and anger issues. I guess he didn't want to wait for a couple more weeks. Tracey

Thanks Alexa...I think I feel those hugs and hear the good thoughts. Hugs, Tracey

Hi Tracey I am sorry that your going through this hurt right now I know exactly how it feels. Sometimes we don't understand things right away, why they happen, why you feel hurt but just remember God wont put anything before you that you truly cannot handle. I have been exactly where you are at right now before and full of confusion at the time. I thought to myself how will I make it through all this? One year later and I am more blessed than I couldve even imagined. God KNOWS what he is doing and he DOES have a plan for you. You are a beautiful woman inside and out. If you ever need a shoulder to lean on or an ear to listen to you dont hesitate to email me. Your Friend, Margo Marie