Thought it wouldn't happen to me

My husband left me tonight...we are getting divorced. I find out he hasn't been happy for over a year. We have had such stress in our lives...we both haven't been in the best moods for a long long time. Last week he said we can't give up, we need to fight for our marriage...I have been working hard on it. But tonight I found out he contacted a lawyer last week about custody and such. I feel so betrayed right now! I am honestly not that upset about all this, strange as it may be. I knew it was coming I guess. Tracey

Tracey, I haven't been on here much but popped on this morning to read this post first. I am so sorry to hear your news. You all have been through so much in the past couple years, I can only imagine the strain it has put on each of you. I hope you guys will consider counseling before you go thru the actual process to divorce. I have had my own share of drama in the past six months, but I keep plugging away and started going back to church for some grounding and spiritual support. I have had such issues iin my head with organized religion, but I finally put that aside and went back only to feel better after each service. Anyway, that isn't a plug for going to church, just saying that things can get better or at least we can find the strength to deal with it. I am here if you need to talk or wanna head to Seaworld for the day . I'll keep you all in my thoughts... Amy

Thank you so much Amy, it has been a horrible night. I have begged him to go to counseling he won't hear me, says it is too late but in the same breath says he loves me and walks out. I don't know how he can say he wants to try to make things work, talk to a lawyer in the mean time and then blindside me tonight with leaving. We have had so much go on in the last few years...I even asked him to wait til we move back to the old house before we make rash decisions. I am glad to hear from you for sure, I have been worried about you. I know about the drama stuff...I wi**** would just go away. After Troy left tonight I decided I need to attend church, I need something. Hugs, Tracey

missed you amy, glad you are back. I am glad you went to church, I know my faith in God has been the rock my entire life. Without Him I would have drowned and wouldn't be the person I am today. I am so excited that you have kept plugging and have not given up through all the trials you've been through. hugs and blessings, Tami

Thanks, Tami! I was raised in a church but lost interest in high school, my friends became more important, then life in college and young adulthood brought partying and focusing on striving for the biggest and the best in everything. I lost sight of my priorities. I have been wanting to go back for a few years, but never had anyone who would go with me, so after so much crap in my life this year, I finally just went alone and it isn't that bad. I'm learning to live one day at a time, that the most important things in life AREN'T things and I now start each day with the Serenity prayer (cause it's easy to remember ) Take good care, Amy

OMG, tracey, i am soo sorry to hear that! i know that not much can make you feel better, but know that i will continue to keep u in my prayers. i don't come on here to often anymore, so am not really in contact with anyone that much, but if u ever need someone to talk to or even someone to just go and get a bite to eat with someday, just email me and i would be more than happy to join you!!!!

Thank you so much Chazlin. I am emotional rollercoaster right now, angry, sad, frustrated my head is just spinning right now. I can't believe a few weeks ago he told me he would never give up on me, never leave me...fight for our marriage, my mom is in shock since he told her this also. He knew we were under so much stress with all the crap going on, but he didn't let it get to him, he ignored a lot of the bad stuff I guess, lucky for him he could. I am so hurt right now, my heart aches...he won't listen to me at all. My mom keeps reminding me that he was 30% of a husband, was so addicted to playing World of Warcraft. He wouldn't talk to me recently, always on the phone about game stuff with friends or in game with them. I just sat around waiting for this to end, saying it was a phase...telling him I want to go out and do things as a family. Gosh venting again...thanks for the support, I will take you up on that offer after I am done with school in 2 weeks. Hugs Tracey

Tracey, This is so horrible!! I am so sorry that you're having to go through this!! Please if you ever need anything, someone to talk to, get together with, anything please let me know! I know theres not much right now that can make you feel better and to be honest I'm completley at a loss for words here. But I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers!! It was great to meet you the other night at the support group!! Again if there's anything at all that you need just let me know!! Hugs, Jo Ann

Thanks again Jo Ann, it was great meeting you the other night also. I will for sure let you know if I need anything. I just need to hold it together for 2 more weeks of A&P II. Hugs, Tracey

I am so sorry Tracey. I can see how you feel betrayed. If there anything I can help let me know.