To do it alone or not?

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My hubby had a terrible experience waiting for me during surgery. They found him and told him when I got out and everything was fine but he had no idea how to find me and the desk closed and left him sitting there. My surgery was 5 1/2 hours and there he sat. When they closed and left him. He went home mad as hell. This experience was nothing like the time he waited for me at Walter Reed. That was an 8 hours surgery but he was right there when I woke from surgery in recovery.

If you sister is going to be there, I would let him go to work and then come pick you up to take you home after a couple of days. You are going to be more asleep than awake most of the time. Hand off the cell to your sister and have her bring it to you when you're in your room. Take a back scratcher and chap stick. You can use the back scratcher to help you reach for things. 

--gina

Oh, daughter, sorry about that. I don't think they will take on locking up cell phones but maybe that's changed. Maybe your hubby could drop off your cell with your daughter. 

I had 4 people waiting and well I was so out of it I never really talked to any of them....If you think he can work without worrying then I would tell him to go and save the time :) We were over a hour away from the hospital so mine did not visit too much either... Plus we have twin 5 year old's at home that needed daddy since momma was gone

Haha Yea twins did make it interesting....I just replied to your message

I know everyone is different so I am just a single voice sharing my experiences. With my revision from lapband to DS - I had a very long surgery. Before taking me back though - I definitely needed my DH for emotional support. He didn't need to stay but he wanted to be close. There was no place "locked" where I could keep stuff. In fact they told me to leave a couple of things in a room - that I never came back to - so was glad I didn't take that advice. :) they told him they would call to find him if there were issues - but he stayed in the waiting area. 

overnight I didn't really need my husband because I slept a lot but the second day he helped me get up and down ... And was my support system - I wouldn't have wanted to be there alone. 

On a different surgery - actually my husband'a jaw surgery- he got such poor treatment overnight that I was very glad I was there as his advocate to get him fresh bandages and pain meds. Every hospital and nurse staff is different, but after going thru that - I am a firm believer that everyone needs someone who can speak up for them while they are in the hospital. 

Just my two cents. 

I was all over the place before my surgery, nothing unusual there. I think you've got the right idea for the day of surgery even though I'm sure it will be hard for him to walk away. You will probably need to leave instructions to have the surgeon or someone call him with any news. Especially since your daughter will be around in case you need an advocate and she can keep him informed till you're recovered enough to talk on the phone.

It's an exciting time, it was for me.

Let us know how you are doing.