A not-so-good NSV

So. I found out tonight that I apparently have a new-found confidence that has my best friend concerned because i get along well with her new boyfriend.

I've never had ANYONE be jealous of me before, let alone my best friend. I don't know what to do about this. I have no interest in him beyond getting along and hoping beyond hope that it works out between them.

I've told her this, and told her not to screw this up because he's a good guy and her last relationship was soooo emotionally abusive I can't even begin to explain.

Beyond that, what else can I do?!? This is all new to me and i don't know how to deal...I don't feel any more confident than I did pre-op...

I know it sounds stupid and niave on my part but I don't know what to say to her.

Maybe just give them a little space?  She's just feeling insecure about you losing weight, along with scared about actually dating someone nice.  I know there's a lot of pressure when you're dating someone good, when you're used to dating creeps.  I speak from experience:)

But dhe's smart and funny and pretty and skinny ... to the point that I wouldn't bring any new guy og MINE near her until I was sure of him...

Just because she is smart, funny, pretty, and skinny does not mean she has self confidence where relationships are concerned.

My daughter dated loser's in high school and she was smart, funny, beautiful, and skinny! Her real mom didn't help her in the self confidence area...neither did her maternal grandparents growing up. I did what I could but you can't completely fight environment.

Liz

Oh goodness - what to do about a jealous and insecure friend?  

All you can do is reassure her that you only want the best for this new and budding relationship.  Perhaps she needs some space to see where her relationship is going with this guy. When she feels more solid with him, you may not feel like a threat?  I'm only speculating here, because there's really very little you can do besides NOT flirt with him and keep your distance.  The rest is between the two of them.