A gentlemen from work asked me out & although I thought I was in check I think I scared...

I have not dated while I was heavy so it has been a while.  I have told myself since I had plenty of attention from men when I was thin this would not be an issue........................NOT.  He sent multiple texts and we spoke on the phone once and then we had several emails going back and forth.  Since he had sent multiple emails himself I did not feel the need to restrain myself however after no reply for a long period of time I believe I may have been to eager.  He is heavy himself however I did not consider it a deal breaker as it was  in an exercise class at work that we met.  I guess what I should take away from this learning experience is the next time do not inundate a person with multiple emails.  I was telling myself if it was meant to be it would not matter as I hate the thoughts of playing games but perhaps one needs to play a little hard to get?  I have no idea at 46 I feel like I am in HS. 

Life is about learning and thanks to my DS I have learned something new about myself a tad humbling but I will survive. 

Donna

It just takes time.  You will probably get the hang of it again.

 

It just blew me away the first time someone was interested in me.  I didn't care what he looked like, Quasimodo would have been just fine.  It was just the fact that he was interested.

I totally understand it was very flattering and I was very surprised.  Obviously to eager as he suggested wine on Friday night however one I do not drink and 2 I have my daughter this weekend.  I booked a hiking trip for next week on Saturday which he agreed to but the weekend with time on my hands I think I sent to many emails and may have appeared like a stalker or clingy since it had been so long. 

thanks for being understanding

Donna

You must be one hot momma now eh? Congrats..., I'm working for the day when I am even more of a stud then I am now.

you are a true flirt

Nah just excited about people reclaiming their lives and "hotness". To regain their sense of self worth etc...

I am SO glad I don't have to deal with dating...being married is nice, esp when you both go thru the surgery!

Next time don't go so crazy with the emails, texts, just enough to let the guy know that yes, you are interested but go SLOW!

Liz

ditto say that again!!!!

Donna, ya know sometimes we think we have a situation all figured out and then it turns out to be something we never even thought of....like maybe was married and had a change of heart about what he was doing... maybe he has an illness...maybe who knows what?

so true