do people treat you differently now?

 Just wondering if since you have had the surgery and lost weight have people treated you differenlty?, have you lost friends because you are no longer the "funny fat friend"? Thanks 

Lost some, gained others.  Worked out for the best...  Fiendship is a 2 way street - the point is that THEY don't get to make all the decisions about who your friends are.  You might consider if YOU want to hang out with the kind of people who sould treat someone differently for this reason.

People in general do treat me differently, for instance, when I go shopping, be it clothing, food, whatever.  They are more willing to engage in coversation, and they don't have those "looks" anymore.  You know them...pity, disgust..or whispering or snickering.  Small children don't remark to their parents "Wow, she's really fat!" anymore.  Complete strangers come up to me now and tell me how beautiful I am.  That happened on occasion when I was SMO, but not with the frequency that it does now. 

I've actually become what I call a "social cripple". I knew what to do in social situations when I was SMO, but now that I'm "normal", I find that I'm having to learn a whole new set of social skills.  I never thought myself to be shy, until I lost the weight.

Sorta backwards, isn't it?

I think many of us have played the "jolly fat friend" role as a defense mechanism against rejection because of our weight. It's sort of an expectation for big women to be  baudy.

Oh, definitely, people have treated me differently. I have them as well. I have not really lost friends because I lost weight, as I moved and well, it's a long story, but I have decided who I do and don't want in my life. Before I would have taken any friends, sad as it sounds. Now, I'm more picky, even though I'm not the skinny ***** A lot of things have just been opened that I never had before.

And yes, I used to be the funny, fat friend. Now, I'm the funny, cut to the bone, sarcastic, say what's on my mind, fat friend :)

i was very surprised about my circle of friends.  the one i thought would never leave, did.  she just couldn't handle me being thinner than her.  to this day, my heart aches over this loss.
friends that i didn't think would be more than passing friends became so supportive early on and are now my besties. 
being mo from childhood i never knew that i was being treated differently or dare i say, discriminated against.  sure enough, i now realize how we treat fat ppl in our society.  
it's just like the saying when something tragic happens to a pretty gal.  all you hear is "oh, she is such a pretty girl"  like what....................unattractive people are expected to have bad things happen to them and pretty ones, not?  i just don't get that one.
after dropping 200#, i used to get very upset when a guy would talk to me, flirt, call me babe or honey.  knowing this would have never happened 3 years ago. 
now, i just smile, and try to treat everyone with kindness and respect.

i like this saying:  remember to be kind, for everyone is fighting some sort of battle.  ( i guess this included my former bff)

I'm a newbie still.  Honestly, I feel constantly scrutinized by the people who know I've had surgery...friends/coworkers/aquaintences. 

But don't get me wrong, they're amazingly supportive. 

The friends I spend the most time with at bars/restaurants watch what I eat like a hawk but that's another topic I whined about earlier.  People I don't see very often (mostly at work) will ask how much I've lost...every time they see me.  During stalls, it's almost embarrassing.

Fortunately, my weight loss up to now is most noticable in my face, so people can tell.

Dropping out of my life for 4 weeks for recovery had the biggest effect.  Some of my closest relationships changed and they aren't nearly as close.  People simply moved on.

 I moved less than a year before I had my DS, and so didn't know many people in my new town, except for my colleagues at work.    Few people know or remember me as obese.    My friends from my old community were delighted and supported when they saw my change.  People absolutely treat me differently now.   As someone else posted, I never quite realized how much different until I lost weight.   Men rushed to open a door for me, offered to carry heavy items, doctors, especially, take me seriously, and look me in the eye.   Sales people wait on me first.    Many women treat me differently.   I often get the "I hate you, you skinny *****" look nowadays, even though I'm no spring chicken.   It was terribly mind-blowing at first.    I got over it though.   It's sad that obesity is the only accepted form of discrimination left.

Yes and no:)

The only people that do not treat me differently are my immediate family and very close friends. These people have seen me at every size and only wish me the best:)

Most of the time thought its a yes! Extended family, friends, co-workers, doctors/healthcare personel , strangers and your supervisors.  

I have had a few of my girl cousins refuse to acknowledge/congragulate my weight loss, I think it's because their husbands are filling my cup with compliments. Not in a flirty way, they just tell me I am doing so well and to keep it up, things like that. Which brings me to male attention. The opposite sex will notice you now and do more for you. I have had men check me out in front of my husband... not a good idea (steam was coming out his ears) and also they will go out of their way to help you. When before they would have never done that. The same sex becomes more cattier and meaner. Female friends that are not so close and female co-workers don't like that you are now one of the skinniest people at work or in your friendship. Strangers will be nicer to you. Doctors/healcare personel will sometimes think you took the easy way out and will not listen to what you know about your new procedure. They will just slap the RNY right in your records and call it good. You will have to sometimes shove it down their throat or find a different doctor.

I am still the same person just thinner :) physical and emotional changes will come just hold on for the ride and survive it!