"Emaciated" they say.... (just venting)

Yeah my FIL is the type who talks first, thinks later. But their intention seemed to be to point out that they always felt the DS was a bad idea rather than say something hurtful.

if it were me...
i think i would just very politely but very firmly say that your weight and weight loss needs to no longer be a topic for discussion, or that you'll be spending less and less time in their company.  and i would refuse to debate it or engage it at all.  and the next time it was broached by someone, i would very quietly get up and leave...  even in the middle of a restaurant dinner, or whatever.  period.  that way, you're not sowing discord, you're merely establishing boundaries and sticking to them.

Hey, Busy! :-)

My approach with someone in my life who cracks on my size is to sit them down and say, "what's your REAL concern?"  If they say, "you're getting too skinny," I say, "is that your eyes talking, or would you like to hear some medical facts?"  Pause...I then go into BMI normal range, blood work, etc.  and end with, "and so, really, I'm not too skinny--your eyes are just having a hard time keeping up with the changes.  No worries--my eyes are having a hard time, too, but the facts speak for themselves."  

They can keep mouthing off after that, but I stick to, "you've stated your opinion many times before, but the facts are still speaking for themselves:  I'm normal weight, my nutrition is fine, and I'm not too thin."  

If their good people otherwise, I think you'll probably have to just let their out-of-the-way comments come and go until they get used to the change and move on to something else.

Ya, that's par for the course. Just ignore them or let them know that your weight is certainly NOT up for discussion EVER. Only if they have something nice to say.

My mother in law had someone tell her she looked like a stretched out piece of gum. Nice.

Print this out and show it to her, and then tell her to MYOB about your weight from now on:

http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/guidelines/obesity/bmi_tbl.pdf

 I am a VERY honest and blunt person, so take my advice with a grain of salt... 

I do not like other people giving me their opinion or making snicky comments like that.  After you have said your peace, leave it at that and move on.  If I were you.... the next time one of them said anything about me being too skinny, I would come back with an pretty sharp comment.  Something like... "I get the point that you think I am too skinny; however, this is my body and I know exactly what I should weigh and what I am doing.  I do not give to rats ass if you think I am too skinny or not.  Your opinion has been noted and I will no longer listen to it any more so drop the comments. Got it?"  

If they then again continued to say something, I would then say, "Listen I have told you before that comments regarding my weight are not welcome nor appreciated.  If you cannot respect that and move on, then this is going to be a major issue for us.  I am a big girl. I made my own decision. I understand you did not agree with that, but I do not care.  Move on. Grow Up. Leave it alone.  Keep your comments to yourself!"

Then again, whether it be my family, my hubby's family or friends... I won't put up with crap like that.  I have no issue making it known that I have heard enough and I am done hearing about.  

"Thank you so much for your concern. My doctor and I are working on this together."

But you're way too skinnnnnyyyyyyy!

"Thank you so much for your concern. My doctor and I are working on this together."

But you've lost it too fast!

"Thank you so much for your concern. My doctor and I are working on this together."


But *I* think you need to stop losing now or you'll look UGLY (fill in the blank, baggy, gaunt, etc)!

"Thank you so much for your concern. My doctor and I are working on this together."

HUBS, please make her start to eat as she is now lookingly sickly and it makes me uncomfortable (now we're getting to the real concern)"

HUBS: "Thank you so much for your concern. My doctor and BusyBee are working on this together."

But, but, I'm not controlling her input and I'm not superior to her any more.....

"Thank you so much for your concern. My doctor and I are working on this together."

All of this time, pleasant smile stuck onto your face. You will not be drawn into a discussion about whether you are or not too thin, lost it foo fast or need or don't need to lose more, less. The ppl who are fighting you cannot be changed in their opinion, but their discussion thereof can be politely adjusted out. You stick to your basic statement. Don't change a word or a smile. Continue with your statement, with is the truth, and they eventually will no longer engage you in this discussion.