need some reassurance for hubby

Your words have helped:) thank you. I research and researched and went thru test after test so I almost feel like blocking everything out of my head until after ive gone thru it:)

Ah to lose 15lbs in 2wks! the light outside your cage is shining bright, run for it;)!!!

My husband was the same way, including breaking down in tears the night before my surgery telling me that he loved me the way I was and I didnt need to do this.  If yours gets as emotional be prepared to be calm, but strong and assertive.  My husband now regrets the way he acted and what he put me through, but I understand the poor guy was scared to death.

You're in good hands with your surgeon, and you know the mistake Stephanie made.  Of course there's no guarantee, but there's risk in what we do every day - driving to work, etc.  There's also a big risk in remaining morbidly obese, but since that kills us over time it somehow seems an acceptable risk.  Having the DS puts the worry on a specific time, date, and place of your surgery so it's hard not to focus on that - but remember what you are doing has far better odds of even doing nothing and staying obese. 

BTW, your surgery date is exactly two years after mine.  It will be fun to watch your progress, just you wait until next summer!!!

Im a HUGE numbers person so that we are 2 yrs apart and ive followed you like a hawk over the last few months doesnt surprise me at all:)

My hubs can be a little emotional but thank goodness i am strong! And i can talk him in circles, which always helps to make him think it was his good idea to begin with...hehe

The "everyday" stuff  and "specific time, date and place" has really helped to put it in perspective for me. Ive always thought that when its your time to go, its your time to go. So i will fight this MO with all ive got and hopefully i will come out the champ on the Dark Side bench (corny but i couldnt help it!)

I heart you, Joanne!

So sweet of you, Jennifer!

You're going to do great, and I'm going to have so much fun to watch you, remembering the milestones I had at different times of the year.

For example, Thanksgiving is going to be a wash for you this year, so be prepared.  I think I had a few bites of mashed potatoes and a tiny piece of turkey breast. and went back to bed.

You're going to do great,

Hi Jennifer,

I don't have any words of advice, just wanted to let you know I'm in the same boat with you. My hubby is so worried that I won't make it thru surgery.  I'm perfectly healthy except I have diabetes. My heart is very healthy (had a heart cath to make sure), healthy lungs, etc.

I've been under anesthesia 2 times (didn't like it) but made it through. I don't know how to reassure hubby except telling him it will be ok. I'm not nervous.....yet, but I probably will end up with some nerves freaking out. I have been approved by insurance but am still waiting on the office to schedule surgery. I'm sure all this "hurry up and wait" stuff is making hubby more nervous than he would normally be.

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know you weren't alone. Good luck to you and swinging all 12 critters for you!

Thank you! so many of us are going to the dark side around the same time so hopefully this thread will help more than just me:)

Thanks for creating a fur storm with all the critter swinging! :) I have 3 i will swing for you!

Well I'm fairly healthy but my weight is affecting my lifestyle to a point that it is making me miserable. My husband knows this. He loves me as I am but he wants me to be happy and able to do all the things that a young healthy body should be able to do, the things I *want* to do. I don't know if it will help you at all, but I have written down some of the things I want to do when I am smaller just to be inspiration and keep my mind on if/when things get rough. Maybe something like that would help you and your husband focus on the *why* down the road. I don't know if your weight is affecting your lifestyle in the same way mine is though; I have back problems that are severely exacerbated by my weight which has made it damned near impossible for me to run around and do all the physical stuff I love.

This is my inspiration printout I made...
http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r205/joannabk/?action=view¤t=inspire01.jpg

I hope it helps!

We sound very similar! Yes, my weight affects my lifestyle. Yes, i cant do everything i want. Yes, i have continuous back pain that ive had for so long i dont even notice sometimes how much its hurting:(

And Yes, ive made myself a mental list of all the things i want to do after. We are actually planning a big vaca this summer and i cant wait to fit comfortably in a airplane seat:)

I think i will do as you said tho and WRITE a list. Hubs will definitely need something to refer to when the going gets tough:)

This is a great idea! Thank you

ETA: i couldnt get your photobucket to come up:( 

 We do sound so similar, except I've had my crap band for way way way too long.  Of course one day with this stupid thing is too long!  Try this link :)  

http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r205/joannabk/inspire01.jpg?t=1318984840

 Hey..I was where you are a little over a month ago. My husband has been supportive throughout this whole process but was very honest about it being scary as all get out. Talking to Dr Sudan really helped him. Perhaps if he went to meet Dr Smith (he was the other surgeon on my short list!) and asked any questions he might have, it would help. 

The odds of you dying in surgery are very small...even compared to just getting in the car! If he is anything like my guy he won't relax until you are out of surgery and on the road to recovery. You are in good hands with Dr Smith..I have heard awesome things about him!

Good luck