Dating and Sex after DS Weight Loss
I was where you are a month or so ago. I was dating a nice gentleman and was ready for the next step. I'd already told him about losing weight and about the scars that I have from PS. It didn't bother him a bit. I did feel better that it was scars and not loose skin, but I never really dated after I lost weight. I must say that the mons lift with the LBL, made sex a bit different and everything was up where it was suppose to be and much tighter.
Congrats on your weightloss and have a frank talk with your guy. Wait until you are ready. If he's a keeper he'll wait for you.
Chris
HW/225 - 5'1" ~ SW/205/after surgery 215 ~ CW/145~ BMI-25.8~Normal BMI 132 ~DS Dr Rabkin 4/17/08
Plastics in Monterrey - See Group on OH Dr Sauceda Jan 13, 2011
LBL, BL, small thigh lift, arms & a full facelift on 1/17/11 UBL 1/21/13
Love my Body by Sauceda
You are a gorgeous lady, and it's completely natural to have these reservations. I can imagine how difficult this may be for you, but everyone here is correct. If he's worthy of you, he will not care a lick about that loose skin. Just be honest with him, and who knows... he may have some reservations of his own that he'd like to share!
I hope that this all works out for you!!!
Take care!
Nic
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Also wouldn't hurt to go get a pretty little something to make you feel better. You could get a nightie that holds the girls up or something that covers your stomach and see if you can get more comfortable.
Also a glass of wine helps!! Good luck and you are super cute. If I know men, he is going to be pretty damn happy you are getting naked in front of him and not that you have some extra skin. Men.
However, I am very concerned that he will be turned off by the loose skin, I know this guy is a good man, but men are stimulated visually and I know I would be mortified if he was repulsed by the sight of my body. I did tell him about my surgery so he knows, but knowing and seeing are two different things.
I have thought about the lingerie idea and that would probably work for a while, so maybe that's the place to start.
Anyway, just wanted to say I understand and I'm going through the same thing.
Good luck!
Lia
Starting weight & height: 265/5' 8.5; Goal weight: 160; Current weight: 155
If you don't want to put off sex, then don't put it off for crying out loud! If you are dating this man exclusively, it's a natural thing to want to move on to further intimacy, and you both deserve to have this time together. If you truly feel that you are so "ugly" (and I agree, that you look adorable) you might want to spend some time with a counselor to work on your body issues. Good luck, and above all - ENJOY yourself. This guy is not (I hope, and if he does, then dump him!) expecting perfection.
Duodenal Switch 08/09/06 - Dr. Paul Kemmeter, Grand Rapids, Michigan
HW: 282 - 5'4"
SW: 268
GW: 135
CW: 125
He has commented that I eat small portions when we eat and to tell the truth, I usually grab something to eat as soon as I get home because I eat every couple of hours. So I guess the healthy thing is to explain that I need to eat more frequently and give him the really short-version of why and just not discuss wrinkles at all.
You know, on "Sex in the City," the girls very often keep on their bras.... Maybe I can get away with that since I'm now a 34 LONG instead of a 48 DDD.
In fact, I'm going to buy a sexy, but supportive, bra this weekend, just in case! Lots of lace and maybe black....
Carol
Height 5'4.5"
HW 283 SW 263 LW 119 CW 147 GW 135
NOT EVEN OVERWEIGHT - Just "normal" for the first time since 1989:)
If I were to dance around the living room nude I would look like a Shar-Pei in a wind tunnel. Not a pretty sight. However!!! When I'm dating someone and we get to the point of getting naked, I feel that if he's sticking around to see it then he really wants to be with me. Not my saggy skin.
Elizabeth
Back in the U.S.A.
"I have lost the lumbering hulk that I once was. I don't hide behind my clothes or behind my door. I am part of life's rich tapestry not an observer." Kirmy