OT- Gay Politics and Family Dynamics
My daughter is Bi... and gorgeous. No she is not a man. She's a woman, who is into both men and women. And I'm a damn proud Mom. (Then again I've always had the policy that I don't care what team you're batting for so long as I can distract from the bleachers! LOL)
Well, Kyra has been in a committed relationship with a woman for the last year, and her grandma is becoming downright vile about it. "So is she gonna be your husband? Is that the lifestyle you want? This is all your mother's fault." (I raised her to accept everyone, including herself. Yes it's all my fault, and I'm damn proud of it!)
Can I just say, that having to comfort my almost 22 year old, who has worked at the same job since she was 16, is a foster mother to two children, and is now the assistant manager of her store, because her Grandmother is basically accusing her of being irresponsible for who she LOVES... makes me want to vomit.
I'd tell her exactly what I think of her, if I thought it would do any good, but FYI both of HER children (my exhusband included) have never held down a job for more than a year at a time, have lived copious amounts of time in her home <2 years or more at a time, rent free as adults on and off for years> and that I'm a really proud Mom who is damn happy I raised such a well adjusted young woman of character??? And that I really don't care who she has sex with? (Although my one caveat is that man or woman, my daughter has horrid taste in partners. She's a "rescuer" like her Mommy. Sigh)
Okay. I'm done venting. I'm thinking about changing my user name to Str8 Against H8. Blech.
Well, Kyra has been in a committed relationship with a woman for the last year, and her grandma is becoming downright vile about it. "So is she gonna be your husband? Is that the lifestyle you want? This is all your mother's fault." (I raised her to accept everyone, including herself. Yes it's all my fault, and I'm damn proud of it!)
Can I just say, that having to comfort my almost 22 year old, who has worked at the same job since she was 16, is a foster mother to two children, and is now the assistant manager of her store, because her Grandmother is basically accusing her of being irresponsible for who she LOVES... makes me want to vomit.
I'd tell her exactly what I think of her, if I thought it would do any good, but FYI both of HER children (my exhusband included) have never held down a job for more than a year at a time, have lived copious amounts of time in her home <2 years or more at a time, rent free as adults on and off for years> and that I'm a really proud Mom who is damn happy I raised such a well adjusted young woman of character??? And that I really don't care who she has sex with? (Although my one caveat is that man or woman, my daughter has horrid taste in partners. She's a "rescuer" like her Mommy. Sigh)
Okay. I'm done venting. I'm thinking about changing my user name to Str8 Against H8. Blech.
"Mediocrity knows nothing higher than itself, but talent instantly recognizes genius." Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
"What your heart thinks is great, is great. The soul's emphasis is always right." Ralph Waldo Emerson
"What your heart thinks is great, is great. The soul's emphasis is always right." Ralph Waldo Emerson
Your ex-MIL sounds like a very vile and bitter old lady. Your daughter has every right to be proud of who she is, the accomplishements she has made, and the life she lives. What happenes in her beadroom when the lights are off (or on) is her business and no one elses.
I hate ignorant people and how they judge someone for not being a cookie cutter cut out of themselves.
You did a good job raising your daughter and deserve to be proud of her as well.
Either one day ex-MIL will wake up realize what a ***** she has been or she will get old and die and your daughter will not have to deal with her anymore.
Just keep being the great support you have been to your daughter and know that you are doing everything you possibly can for her.
Screw hateful bitter people their judgment day will come soon enough and it won't be pretty for them!
I hate ignorant people and how they judge someone for not being a cookie cutter cut out of themselves.
You did a good job raising your daughter and deserve to be proud of her as well.
Either one day ex-MIL will wake up realize what a ***** she has been or she will get old and die and your daughter will not have to deal with her anymore.
Just keep being the great support you have been to your daughter and know that you are doing everything you possibly can for her.
Screw hateful bitter people their judgment day will come soon enough and it won't be pretty for them!
My stepdaughter is gay too, she claimed bi for a while but I knew it was only because she was afraid to shock everyone by being plain old gay.... I guess she thought of bi as a hedge.
I think in this day you should explain to grandma that she either needs to love your daughter for who she is, or forget about her. Under no cir****tance though is she allowed to insult or belittle her as she is still your daughter!
I think in this day you should explain to grandma that she either needs to love your daughter for who she is, or forget about her. Under no cir****tance though is she allowed to insult or belittle her as she is still your daughter!
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I don't really have much say. This is my ex husbands mother and my daughter is almost 22. She loves her grandma so she won't stop seeing her, but even though she puts on her "I don't care what she says..." face I know she actually cares a lot. Sigh. This grandmother is one of those personalities that always has something to complain about. She's always there for her kids and grandkids, but it always comes with strings, generally emotional and psychological ones.
"Mediocrity knows nothing higher than itself, but talent instantly recognizes genius." Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
"What your heart thinks is great, is great. The soul's emphasis is always right." Ralph Waldo Emerson
"What your heart thinks is great, is great. The soul's emphasis is always right." Ralph Waldo Emerson
My sil is bi, and currently in a relationship with a woman, at first her grandmother had a really hard time with it, until I sat down with Gram (who was 76 at the time) and said "SIL is who she is, wouldn't you rather see her happy than sad? If her gf makes her happy, isn't that better than seeing her in a relationship with *insert a guys name here* and being miserable?". Gram finally came around, but then, she was never vocal (especially in front of sil) about her disapproval & concern. But, you could tell.
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