I made a mistake, but you live and learn, had a no-no to eat last night and today
And hey, there's always hope that she, or one of the folks like her, will eventually "get" something that didn't hit home the first hundred times it was said.
Valerie
DS 2005
There is room on this earth for all of God's creatures..
next to the mashed potatoes
Hum, and one wonders why RNY didn't work for Karen . . . . . sorry, just my opinion. None of these surgeries mean we can continue our bad habits, we need to work with the surgery to be healthy. A normal weight does not mean we are healthy. I have known many that are not healthy yet have no weight issues. Please, no flaming. I am just saying what is on my mind, and ready what others say as well.
On May 30, 2009 at 8:11 AM Pacific Time, watrlvr wrote:
Hum, and one wonders why RNY didn't work for Karen . . . . . sorry, just my opinion.
Believe me, you are not the only one with this opinion.
~ I am the proud wife of a Guatemalan, but most people call me Kimberley
Highest Known Weight = 370# / 59.7 bmi @ 5'6"
Current Weight = 168# / 26.4 bmi : fluctuates 5# either way @ 5'7" / more than 90% EWL
Normal BMI (24.9) = 159#: would have to compromise my muscle mass to get here without plastics, so this is not a goal.
I my DS. Don't go into WLS without knowing ALL of your options: DSFacts.com
That is not not tough love. Mean is mean, no matter how you try to cloak it. There is constructive criticism and destructive criticism. And I hope I speak for everyone when I say that one of those types of criticism is not welcome on this board.
Kristal
Karen is a kind, sweet and well-intentioned person -- but she seems to be thick as a brick about her own behavior and how it has contributed to where she is now and where she is likely to end up if she doesn't control herself. She also posts A LOT -- and newbies who don't know the backstory are in danger of thinking she knows what she is doing and talking about, just because she has been a member of OH for a long time. This couldn't be further from the truth.
I wish Karen nothing but the best, but expect the worst. There is a general expectation and prediction among some of us on this board that she will find some way to screw up her DS, and sure as **** she is already exhibiting that behavior. The best we can do is to warn the newbies that her experiences will NOT be normal or expected, because she seems bound and determined to fail. She needs to get a grip RIGHT NOW, and the newbies need to know that her behavior is often irrational, no matter how well stated.
As for constructive criticism -- you assume too much. You assume nobody ever said anything like this to her NICELY in the past. They have. It fell on deaf ears. So they are saying it louder, not only for Karen's benefit, but also for the benefit of those newvbies who don't realize that this is a pattern of dysfunctional behavior that has a long history, and should not be considered normal.
"As for constructive criticism -- you assume too much. You assume nobody ever said anything like this to her NICELY in the past."
Actually I don't think that at all. I feel as though most people here have been very nice and kind with thier posts. I was just speaking about that ONE person, not everyone at all. Don't take things too personal. It's not good for the heart....