women only not for men !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

here is a little test to see who is looking when their not suppose to i knew i would catch you all off guard lol i just needed something different to get you all to laugh ok ok i am not trying to be mean i just wanted to do something different lol but now for you women and men out there my question is seriously how do you take all the compliments and things that you get now verses the ones you got before i find it hard to handle because my take on this is that the people who didn't like me before are not going to like me now because i still have the same personality just in a smaller body but i still feel uncomfortable when someone says wow you look good when they would never say it before i am open and am willing to listen to what everyones take on this is your friend vickie

Vickie, It takes time but just learn to say "Thank you!". I experience the same things and that's all I say Lisa

Accepting compliments - It was a very hard thing for me to do especially in the beginning.... Because I still think why are these people complimenting me when I am not where I want to me. So instead of saying....I only lost XXX lbs and I still have more like I use to say....I just say Thank You! After you do it a few times it gets easier. As far as people not complimenting you before and now saying things to you. People do have a phobia with the "Fat Person". I think people think we can control it and if they don't talk to us or bother with us they are better off. Now that you are starting to look less like the "Fat Person" and in my words "MORE Normal" people tend to open up to you. Lots will want to know how you did it. I go to Stanley's Restaurant alot and the waiters/waitresses there have seen me at my worst and now....Last night one of the girls we haven't seen in awhile said to me "You look so good". I used the reply "Thank You". No other explanation is needed. And it feels good to do that. I am genuinely proud of me! This I consider a big milestone in my recovery! Along with getting pictures done....I have always hated it...now I love to do it. Mentally I am changing as much as I was physically. I just hope they are all the right changes so that I can be healthy for the rest of my life. Or I have the wonderful insight to see that the combination is not working and find the tools to fix it. Its a journey and not an easy one! Especially when you have never put yourself first! Everyone have a great day! Debbie

And I am proud of you! Would you and your wonderful hubby like to come to dinner Friday night at my place? It won't be an early dinner since I don't get off until 5 (home around 6) and I would still have to cook. Let me know! Gigee

Yipes! Make it Saturday! I didn't realize that this Friday was the 11th, I'll be out singing that night Let me know!

I can't make Friday or Saturday...We are helping Mom with her mountain house doing the cleaning of the gutters.....let me tell you dinner sounds a lot better. Can I take a rain check or what about Thursday? Tuesday would be better since my interview is Wednesday for the job and I would really like someone to drill me to be sure I am on my game. Are you available to be my coach for this? Debbie

This coming Tuesday? Sure, let's do it. But remember, it will be a late dinner since I don't get home until 6. So plan on coming over around 6:30ish and I'll have dinner ready by 7:30? That sound good?

Works for me! I usually don't eat until then anyway! I will bring dessert....I make a mean pumpkin custard! LOL Debbie

lol my response to the "You Look Good" comment is.. honey, I always looked good, but I sure do feel better now ... we laugh and then they agree (like they wouldn't? lol) that I always looked good. I'm loving it Gigee

I don't mean to sound selfish, but I found the opposite. I have only had one person ask me, "have you been working out?". It seems like no one has noticed me weight loss. I have been working really hard and I have lost 50 lbs. I went down four sizes but no one seems to notice. Kim S