OMG I'M A BIG CRY BABY
WELL I FINALLY MADE IT I'M ON THE LOSING SIDE.THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR ALL YOUR LOVE AND SUPPORT, MOST OF ALL PRAYERS AND MY FAMILY.I HAVE HAD A REALLY HARD TIME IT'S BEEN JUST ABOUT NONSTOP CRYING AND MY HUSBAND IS TIRED OF IT ALREADY AND HAS WARNED ME HE IS JUST ABOUT OUT THE DOOR,WELL I LOST IT AGAIN AND BOY AND GET EVEN MORE MADDER AND WALKED AWAY.TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH I HAVE BEEN ON 2 DEPRESSION PILLS AND 2 HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE PILLS AND PREVACID,TOPROL,LIPITOR AND I HAVE NOT TAKEN ANY OF THESE SINCE MAY 31ST. AND I ALSO HAVE BEEN WANTING A CIG SO BAD ESPECIALLY WHEN I GET UPSET.I AM SO EMOTIONAL THAT I AM MAKING MYSELF SICK AND WANTING TO GIVE UP,MAN IF I JUST HAD A CIG.LOL JUST THINKING OUT LOUD.BEING UPSET IS REALLY GETTING TO ME AND I HATE BEING THIS WAY FOR I DON'T WANT TO GIVE UP ON MYSELF I'VE ALREADY WENT FUTHER THEN I EVER THOUGH AND I DON'T REGRET MY DECISION SO NOW I JUST GOT TO RIDE THIS THROUGH BUT IT'S HELL AND I MIGHT EVEN LOSE A HUSBAND OUT OF IT,AND I DON'T WANT THAT.I CALLED MY DAUGHTER AND SHE TALKED ALONG TIME WITH ME AND I WOULD BE SO LOST WITHOUT HER SHE'S MY ANGEL AND I LOVE HER WITH ALL MY HEART.SHE FINALLY GOT ME SETTLED DOWN AND NOW I'M CRYING AGAIN LOL BUT IT'S A GOOD CRY WHEN I SPEAK OF MY DAUGHTER AND MY HUSBAND I GET ALL CHOKED UP,I GUESS IT REALLY LET'S YOU KNOW HOW MUCH I LOVE MY FAMILY AND YES I ALSO HAVE A SON TOO WE ARE CLOSE BUT NOT AS MY DAUGHTER AND I.BOY DO MY SON AND I TALK ALOT TOO LOL.WELL I HAVE CRUSHED UP 2 ZOLOFT WISH ME LUCK FOR I TRULY NEED IT. SO ANY ADVICE IS SURELY WELCOMED.MY SURGERY WAS MAY 31ST AND TODAY IS JUNE 5TH.LOVE YA ALL BONNIE
Hi Bonnie,
I'm sorry that you are having such a rough time. I was thinking about you stopping your antidepressants on May 31st. Some of those meds can cause withdrawal if you stop them suddenly without tapering off of them. You may be having withdrawal symptoms from this, along with an increase in your depression.
I am on Effexor (some for depression, but mostly for hot flashes) and I decided that I wanted to try to stop the med about a month ago. I talked to the psychiatrist that I work with and she told me how to taper down the dose. I have to tell you, it was hard! I ended up having to take twice as long tapering off, and then when I finally made it - I was still more emotional and had trouble talking without stammering at times. I decided to continue to take a very small dose and am doing fine now.
So, talk to your doctor. You probably need to be back on your meds! Please hang in there and don't give up!
Donna
Bonnie, All the meds and pain killers do strange things to your body. Hang in there and call your doctors. Maybe they can make some suggestions. My husband is at his wits end and I haven't even had my surgery yet! Even though I only know you from this web site,you have to know we are all here for you. Keep talking to us. It helps to know someone is listening. Your friend, Ellen
Hey there!
Don't get too upset and quit yet! Honestly, this emotional rollercoaster is VERY normal after the surgery. Most of us go through it (including me). I stopped taking my antidepressant as of 8/31/04 and stopped the BP meds the day I left the hospital...partly because of crushing and partly because, oh HECK! Who has time to think/remember all we have to do in the beginning?
It all becomes 2nd nature quickly.
Keep smiling through the tears and know they will end. Yes, stopping BP & depression meds cold turkey is not recommended, but like I said, I didn't really do it intentionally, so no one slay me. I was a lucky one and made out ok.
Best of luck to you, Bonnie!
Valerie
I LOVE YOU ALL (((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 
Bonnie, This will not be an easy journey for some of us. Some of us loose relationships, but gain new friends. Either way it won't be easy. Support is what it is all about. Right now you can be a little selfish and get more of the attention so that you can be healthy. Husbands, kids, friends and family will just have to get behind you and support you the best they can. My husband couldn't figure out who was sent home from the hospital. I wasn't the same person he dropped off. I blame it on the anesthia and mind eraser drugs. The emotional support you might need can be from within yourself and this site. Cause most of us have been there. Don't expect your family to change. It is you that needs to put yourself 1st for now. How are you feeling? My bet is that you have some energy that you never had before. Take the oppurtunity to start walking & getting outside as much as you can. Take little power naps when you need rest. Ups & downs. This is the roller coaster we all talk about. Try to stay positive & focused. Read some of our profiles. We're on the roller coaster with you. ((HUGS)) Elissa
T T.
on 6/5/05 9:41 pm
on 6/5/05 9:41 pm
HUGS to you (((Bonnie))) 
These first few weeks (months for some of us) can be a crazy time. I was told that we store hormones in our fat and as the fat stores start to break down during our rapid weight loss, that these hormones are released into our bodies faster than we can process them. Thus we are left with a massive case of a sort of PMS or postpartum depression type period of time. This will pass when things start to level out, but in the interim, you just have to ride the coaster and hold on as best you can.
I used to have an in depth journal online and in it I posted about how crazy those times were. Truly, for me, this was the hardest part of the whole journey. I felt so sorry for my wonderful hubby during this time as I went in a dozen different directions within minutes. Seeing his distress, and yet I was not able to do anything other than continue on the path I was going down. Thankfully, he stuck with me and now we are reaping the benefits of that rough period of time.
Perhaps you can get your hubby to go to the next PMRI meeting with you? It might help him to better understand what you are going through. Especially if someone else here would ask the doctor about the emotional roller coaster. Perhaps having the doctor explain it to the group would help him to know that you are not the only one who deals with this AND that it does get better. That this is not something that he is going to have to deal with forever. At the very least, you have your daughter, thank goodness ... lean on her for that emotional support should your hubby not be able to be that rock for you right now. Keep in mind, that this surgery is something that effects everyone around you in one way or another. Hubby may need some time to learn to deal with it as well and may not be able to offer you what you need right now. I was told that major stress in a family whether it be the addition of a new baby, new home, death of a close family member, financial troubles etc, can sometimes cause small problems to erupt into large ones. My doc, years ago, told me to hang on for one full year after the birth of my second son before making any life changing decisions. He said if I could hold on for that year, then things would settle back down and my decisions would be based on reason rather than emotion. (Take it for what it is worth) but I held that tight and hung in there. Even though I was in a horrid marriage, I stuck it out during that time of emotional upheaval. I would like to give you a rosy story where everything worked out in the end, but unfortunately it did not, but at the very least my decision was based on reason rather than emotion. For that I am very thankful. It was a rough period, but again, I made it, and have since truly fell in love and married the most wonderful man ever. We have been together for years now and have a wonderful family together. He sticks by my side, supporting me even when the going is rough for him as do I for him.
In the interim, remember, the more you exercise the better it will help you feel emotionally. Obviously, I can only speak for myself, but for me, truly it really helped my emotional roller coaster to not be quite as hilly. Keep up with your vitamins, water, and protein. These are all things that will help get your body in the best possible physical condition, and that does have a bearing on your emotional being as well. Forgive my harping on the necessity of something I am sure you already are aware, but having been there I know that even though I knew that these were/are such important aspect and yet sometimes in the midst of our struggles, we have so much on our minds we forget their importance to our long term well being. It took a gentle reminder from someone to help me regain focus on their importance early out.
Truly I do understand the struggles you are talking about, a short time after my surgery, I had a significant anniversary of the loss of my twin babies. Combining that with the emotional hormonal roller coaster of this surgery, and I was thrown for a loop. Truly, I almost shut down. I was an emotional mess. I had to take some time to be selfish, something I hadn't known how to do in the past to get past that one. But the good news is, I did get through it ... and so will you sweetie.
Hang in there, vent here when needed, and know that this is just a very short limb of a very rewarding journey. If there is ever anything I can do for you, please do not hesitate to email me. I will certainly try to help in any way I can.
Please know that you and your hubby are close in heart and in my prayers.
Remember, you are NOT alone, I have been there done that, and now I have the T-Shirt to prove it (MUCH MUCH smaller size now - btw 
)!
Tammy
These first few weeks (months for some of us) can be a crazy time. I was told that we store hormones in our fat and as the fat stores start to break down during our rapid weight loss, that these hormones are released into our bodies faster than we can process them. Thus we are left with a massive case of a sort of PMS or postpartum depression type period of time. This will pass when things start to level out, but in the interim, you just have to ride the coaster and hold on as best you can.
I used to have an in depth journal online and in it I posted about how crazy those times were. Truly, for me, this was the hardest part of the whole journey. I felt so sorry for my wonderful hubby during this time as I went in a dozen different directions within minutes. Seeing his distress, and yet I was not able to do anything other than continue on the path I was going down. Thankfully, he stuck with me and now we are reaping the benefits of that rough period of time.
Perhaps you can get your hubby to go to the next PMRI meeting with you? It might help him to better understand what you are going through. Especially if someone else here would ask the doctor about the emotional roller coaster. Perhaps having the doctor explain it to the group would help him to know that you are not the only one who deals with this AND that it does get better. That this is not something that he is going to have to deal with forever. At the very least, you have your daughter, thank goodness ... lean on her for that emotional support should your hubby not be able to be that rock for you right now. Keep in mind, that this surgery is something that effects everyone around you in one way or another. Hubby may need some time to learn to deal with it as well and may not be able to offer you what you need right now. I was told that major stress in a family whether it be the addition of a new baby, new home, death of a close family member, financial troubles etc, can sometimes cause small problems to erupt into large ones. My doc, years ago, told me to hang on for one full year after the birth of my second son before making any life changing decisions. He said if I could hold on for that year, then things would settle back down and my decisions would be based on reason rather than emotion. (Take it for what it is worth) but I held that tight and hung in there. Even though I was in a horrid marriage, I stuck it out during that time of emotional upheaval. I would like to give you a rosy story where everything worked out in the end, but unfortunately it did not, but at the very least my decision was based on reason rather than emotion. For that I am very thankful. It was a rough period, but again, I made it, and have since truly fell in love and married the most wonderful man ever. We have been together for years now and have a wonderful family together. He sticks by my side, supporting me even when the going is rough for him as do I for him.
In the interim, remember, the more you exercise the better it will help you feel emotionally. Obviously, I can only speak for myself, but for me, truly it really helped my emotional roller coaster to not be quite as hilly. Keep up with your vitamins, water, and protein. These are all things that will help get your body in the best possible physical condition, and that does have a bearing on your emotional being as well. Forgive my harping on the necessity of something I am sure you already are aware, but having been there I know that even though I knew that these were/are such important aspect and yet sometimes in the midst of our struggles, we have so much on our minds we forget their importance to our long term well being. It took a gentle reminder from someone to help me regain focus on their importance early out.
Truly I do understand the struggles you are talking about, a short time after my surgery, I had a significant anniversary of the loss of my twin babies. Combining that with the emotional hormonal roller coaster of this surgery, and I was thrown for a loop. Truly, I almost shut down. I was an emotional mess. I had to take some time to be selfish, something I hadn't known how to do in the past to get past that one. But the good news is, I did get through it ... and so will you sweetie.
Hang in there, vent here when needed, and know that this is just a very short limb of a very rewarding journey. If there is ever anything I can do for you, please do not hesitate to email me. I will certainly try to help in any way I can.
Please know that you and your hubby are close in heart and in my prayers.
Remember, you are NOT alone, I have been there done that, and now I have the T-Shirt to prove it (MUCH MUCH smaller size now - btw )!
Tammy 
Run 
don't walk in the other direction!!!
Go for that nice frosty delicious protein shake instead! 
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